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Nov 19, 2014
 Michelle:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It is so very distressing when we read and/or hear about such terrible things that others do to children. It's bad enough when they happen in distant places, but when they hit so close to home we can be thrust into a place where we question the sanity of our world, question the level of our humanity, question whether or not the concept of LOVE actually exists.

Here's how I perceive such things...

When we see only the bad and only the the evil in people, when we get angry but are not spurred into action, when we fail to see the good even in the worst of the bad, then we ourselves contribute to the evil that persists within our world. Like energy attracts. In other words, the more bad we see, the more bad we will continue to see and experience ourselves. That is the Law of Attraction.

What is key is how we see what is going on around us.

We are all connected. We truly are One. And though that's a difficult concept to embrace when we learn of atrocities against others, especially children, we do contribute to the low vibrational frequency of such things when we stay stuck in the mindset that our world is evil. Yes, there are people the world over who do evil things. But even within the evil acts of others, there typically emerges a shining bright light. In some cases, many of them. The Boston bombings were horrific, but more than the horror, I remember the the courageous people who came running to the aide of those who were maimed and harmed. That is how I choose to remember that tragic day.

Evil things done to others (what I refer to as "contrast") is the darkness from which the light can shine. Without darkness, light would mean nothing. There would be no light.

Without evil, difficult as evil is to endure even from a distance, we would never see or experience the greatness of humans having a spiritual experience.

We value laughter most when we've experienced despair. We value and appreciate food most when we've experience hunger. We value friendship and become BETTER friends ourselves when we've experienced what it's like to be betrayed by one.

And when we hear that a child was killed by his mother because of her inability to cope with the challenges his gifts bring her, then first we're in disbelief and then anger, even rage. But where we go from there is what's important.

We can choose to bring purpose to what we endured. I say this because it's important to recognize that when we feel deeply about something that has happened in our world, we are being triggered in some significant way. We are actually being compelled to respond based on how we've experienced our world. How we respond is up to us. We can step up or we can sit idly back, throw up our hands in surrender and decide the world is going to hell in a hen basket. We can choose to go deeper into anger, even despair at what our world is coming to. Or we can choose to be a shining light, a beacon of hope for all those who come after the autistic boy who lost his life for being who he is. We can bring purpose to his terrible demise, but only when we use our free will and compassion to do so.

We can choose to bring awareness to those who are unaware.

We can choose to work toward a goal of bringing much-needed support to those who find the challenges of raising an autistic child unbearably difficult. But we can only choose the latter if we are willing to allow our anger and hostility to be released, if we are willing to bring understanding to the forefront, if we are willing to forgive. Because it is in that understanding and forgiveness that our true gifts can surface and bring lasting change in our world.
To bring neverending condemnation and hatred to the mother who did something so heinous is to bring more of the same into our world.

You are such a loving compassionate person, Michelle. I've seen that in the comments you've left others. And now, in your hour of need, I hope I have been able to show you a different way to see what happened to that beautiful little 6-year-old autistic boy. From the deepest part of my heart, I thank you for bringing me an opportunity to shine a bright light on at least one of our darker moments. I send you love, light and healing energy. Always.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Nov 19, 2014
 WOW
by: Anonymous

Just WOW to your comment Darlene. Profound.
Nov 20, 2014
 WOW IS RIGHT!
by: amy

i agree with anonymous.profound.powerful even. ty for all u said here darlene n for all u do.

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