Comments for Things Turned Bad

Click here to add your own comments

Apr 27, 2015
 Britney:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Children who come from abusive environments are set up to bring more violence into their lives. You said yourself that you were used to your father slamming your head against a wall so it was okay for your boyfriend to do the same. Nothing could be further from the truth. It wasn't "okay" for either your father or this guy to be violent toward you. And it's not okay for you to be violent toward yourself, though I completely understand why you are.

In order to be treated well by others, you must first start by treating your Self with dignity and respect and self-love. And that starts by stopping the self-harm, difficult as that will be to do. Or perhaps you've already stopped cutting and sewing yourself. If so, I commend and applaud you for treating yourself with the love you deserve.

No one has the right to hurt you, Britney. No one. Always remember that. Treat yourself better than anyone ever has.

You are beautiful. Stop trying to be something that others think is beautiful. When you reach for that kind of praise, you give up your power to others. And trust me when I tell you that when you do that, even when you measure up to their definition of "beauty", they change the rules so that you'll never ever measure up. Forget what "they" think or say. Be the person who know her own value, from the inside. Because that's all that matters. What you think of yourself is all that matters. It's the only thing you have any control over. So change your perspective. Change your inner conversation. Tell your Self beautiful things about your Self. And keep telling your Self all those lovely things about your Self, because it's in those statements that there is real truth.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, Britney. I send you love, light and healing energy.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Apr 28, 2015
 Get out of that house NOW!!!
by: Anonymous

Britney, your so-called family are wrong and so is everyone else. You're not fat; you're not ugly; you're very beautiful. As for your so-called boyfriend, you need to dump him, Next time your abusers (including your "parents") hurt you again, please consider reporting them, all of them, to the authorities ASAP. No one should ever go through that.

Click here to add your own comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to Write Your Child Abuse Story.

Return to Things Turned Bad

Disclaimer: To the best of my knowledge the child abuse
stories on this site are true. While I cannot guarantee
this, I do try to balance the need for the submitter to be
heard and validated with the needs of my visitors.



E-book: Victim To Victory

From Victim to Victory
a memoir

How I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and moved on with my life

Read more...

Most Recent

RSS

  1. Converging Stolen Lives

    Jan 30, 18 01:13 PM

    There was a time and space I didn’t think about you, or your abuse. Where when I looked back at my life, I only saw normal things, a normal childhood.

    Read More

  2. A letter to one of the 13 Turpin children

    Jan 29, 18 11:33 AM

    A heartfelt letter by a former classmate that speaks to bullying and regrets. You'll find it on my Facebook group. I hope you'll join and get in on the discussion.

    Read More

  3. Dissociated From Abuse

    Jan 29, 18 11:00 AM

    I was sexually abused by my father from age 6 to 13, which stopped when I started talking about it during the day. The teenage brother of my best friend

    Read More

E-book: Victim To Victory

From Victim to Victory
a memoir

How I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and moved on with my life

Read more...