Positive Self Talk to Deal with Change

by Sarah
(Canada)

Change has always been difficult for me. Even positive change. I think it has to do with control. I fear not having any and it's easier to deal with what I know than what I don't know. But change is important for growth. We're moving today to a new place and the stress has given me nosebleeds all day yesterday. Even in the heat, I had to go running in the woods.

Something I found that works for me besides running, is telling myself, telling that part of me that is still the scared inner child - everything will be alright. Self-talk. Positive self-talk. Talking to myself as I would to one of my kids when they're afraid. Just saying the affirming words to myself seems to calm me down.

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Releasing the Tension

by Sarah
(Canada)

Self injury was a huge problem for me. For years, ever since I was really young, I cut myself, bit my arms, banged my head just to release the building tension inside. I don't do that anymore but I still feel it at times. Now I run. I run in the woods. Being in nature is powerful for me. The sights, the smells, the deer, the herons, the earth - help me to feel alive so that I don't need to hurt myself. Singing also helps me. I sing faith songs to empower myself with. Those somehow push out the negative thinking.

Sarah

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