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Dec 12, 2017
 To Cassie:
by: Darlene - Healing Coach

Thank you for your honesty, for sharing the bitter and raw reality of the aftermath of sexual abuse within a family. But the aftermath is the pedophile’s to bear, not yours, no matter how your family attempts to whitewash it otherwise. He was the guilty one, not you. He was the offender, not you. And your various family members were enablers, before and afterward.

You are more survivor than you could possibly realize, Cassie. And now, YOU get to decide whether or not you want to continue a relationship with any single person in your family. To do so out of "obligation" is to continue the legacy of what the pedophile instilled in you. You are no longer that vulnerable child.

As for "winning"...I will not say that there are no winners when a pedophile is convicted. I can see your perspective, boy can I see your perspective. The winners, though, they’re the children who either didn’t get abused or the abused stopped as a result of getting him convicted. So don’t ever lose sight of that.

I send you continued loving healing energy, Cassie.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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