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Jun 18, 2014
 Lauren:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The truth is your parents are neglecting you. It's their job to ensure you are kept safe from harm. And while it's not unusual for siblings to argue, even push each other around at times, it's still the responsibility of your parents to make sure no one gets hurt. You do need to stand up for yourself, especially when no one else will. But if you decide that there is no one to talk to, then you'll never get the help you need. Talking to a friend might help you feel better, but typically your friends can't really help the situation. Consider contacting Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about what you are dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/

But for some reason, your brother seems very troubled, threatened even. Otherwise, he wouldn't do what he's doing to you. The fact that he gets away with it makes it easy for him to continue to target you. Standing up to him might mean more injury. But at the same time, you don't want to be his personal punching bag. Within the confines of a comment that is allowed only a few hundred permissible words, there really isn't much anyone can do to help you here. Some will tell you to hit him back. I'm not an advocate of more violence. But I do believe you have the absolute right to defend yourself. Not only do you need to deal with the violence, you also need to deal with the emotional turmoil of being repeatedly hit by your brother, and the lack of action from your parents which probably feels like betrayal and abandonment. Call the number above. I send you love, light and healing energy, Lauren. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Jun 18, 2014
 I've been through the exact same thing
by: Anonymous

I feel your pain and I know what it's like go through something like this; I, too, have an older brother who is very violent, horrible and awful towards me, even doing the same thing to me every year and all my parents care about is him. Oh, not only that---they also always take his side and never let me call the police; I've never been more devastated. Anyway, I can't believe that your parents aren't even appalled by his behavior at all; they should totally be standing up for you and putting him in his place. Oh, and he is wrong. You're not fat; you're not ugly; you are beautiful. You're not stupid either; you're very smart and articulate. Anyway, I know you're scared, but please try telling someone you really trust because it won't get better unless you tell.

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