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Feb 09, 2012
 To Tiger:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Whether or not you "provoke" this guy, he NEVER has the right to lay a hand on you or mistreat you in any way. No person has that right. You do not deserve to be abused and assaulted. This is not about you; it's all about HIM. He's the one at fault. He's the one who's chosen to abuse you. He has serious problems, but you can't fix him. You stay with him because you have a distorted view of what love is, and because you do not see your Self as worthy of dignity and respect. But you ARE worthy of dignity and respect. This guy WILL escalate the violence against you. You ARE in danger. Please contact the 24-hour National Domestic Violence
Freephone Helpline at 0808 2000 247. Check out their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/

Treat your Self better than this guy is treating you. Call the number. You deserve the help they can provide. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach.
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Feb 15, 2012
 I see myself in your Story
by: Anonymous

It was 10 years ago since I left. I understand your pain and have all that done to me by my ex. Your explanation of things he's done made me wonder if you ended up with him. It is hard to leave and scary too. I went to a woman's shelter then supportive housing for a year. I felt as though my own family could never understand what I went through and in fact I was embarrassed at what I "let" him do to me (physically and sexually). I still am embarrassed but I have learned people don't see my past unless I show them.
It took me about 7 times trying to leave before I left for good. I left in my pyjamas with bedroom slippers on and still almost turned back. The hardest thing you will do is leave him. And the road to recovery is not easy but it is easier than that first step.
People are good, you are not a liar or any other name he calls you. No matter what bad choices you have made in your past or present, he is not the one to judge you. You are not special to him, he will treat the next woman exactly the same as you. (that was the hardest thing for me to finally believe) I do not mean to be hurtful and forgive me if I am. You writing your story here means you are getting ready to leave. No amount of love or caring will make him stop, change or take responsibility. I know I tried everything. I lived with the one thought in my mind "If only I did this or that right, then he'd be ok, wouldn't complain or have to hit me". It does not work because as soon as you "do right" the stakes get higher. The expectations get ridiculous. Get safe, get help from women organizations. they will embrace you and not judge you nor will they "make" you do anything you are not capable of.
Leave everything behind, it is all replaceable.
I hope you survive because your story only has two endings. One is the ending where you leave.
You can do this, I promise you.
Take this as my hug to you.

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