Relationship Violence Story From RZ

by Razzle Dazzle
(Minnesota, USA)

I was in a unhealthy relationship it started when I was 12. I was dating my best friends older brother. It started off at a good start I thought until the night he started to abuse me. The next day I didn't want to speak to him but he called and apologized to me so I forgave him. My best friend asked me why I forgave him and that he was a jerk but I didn't care he said sorry and that was all I needed. He was there for me all the time . I found out that he has been smoking weed and I wasn't okay with it I asked him to quit but he didn't that was when I told him if he didn't quit I was going to break up with him. He said just try it he told me it would make me feel happier. So I did that s when I started to smoke a lot. My mom died the year before I started to date him. He felt bad that I didn't have anyone there for me because I was really upset that my mom committed suicide. So he started to come around more often and we spent a lot more time together. He started to become abusive again and my best friend wanted me to break up with him but I didn't want to I liked him a lot. The next day I told him we needed to talk. When I told him I wanted to break up he got really upset and started to abuse me so after that I decided I would not do that again he gets too abusive. I told my best friend about it and she was really angry that he put his hands on me that so went to yell at him and to tell him he needs to leave me alone. He got upset with me that I told her and so he said that I have to stay with him. Just this last year I had the guts to leave him I went and got help from my older cousin and now I am happy that I am not with him anymore he hurt me so much that right now I am taking things slow with my new boyfriend. He is nice, respectful, and my best friend approves of him. She tells me that she is proud of me that I got out of that abusive relationship. I am now living somewhat happy.