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Oct 14, 2011
 Erika:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Within the scope of this website I can't even begin to say all that needs to be said here. The fact that you believe that you are the one who has to be "enough" for him clearly points to a lack of self-esteem and a lack of confidence. His violence is so not about you; it's all about him. What you're in love with is the idea of what you perceive him to be, not what he is at all. He showed you a side that is the side you think of as his true character, a side you want to believe actually exists, but in fact, it's a game, Erika. A game that was intended to draw you in, and then once you were drawn in, he showed you his true colours. Every time he comes back begging and pleading, saying he'll change, it's the honeymoon period. And the honeymoon period will ALWAYS dissipate into something insidious: blaming YOU for what HE has done. And then the cycle of violence repeats itself. Unless and until you realize that there is no changing him and that you are worthy of dignity and respect, you will always believe you aren't worthy of something better than him. Not only are you in constant danger when he's around, your baby is too. He's proven that. He has not proven he's changed. If you allow this man back into your life he will hurt you and he will hurt your daughter. And as time goes on, the violence will escalate and increase in intensity. You and your daughter are in danger with him. Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.ndvh.org/

You deserve so much better than this man. He's deeply troubled and you CAN'T fix him. Only he can work toward that end; and he's nowhere near ready to do that. He WILL abuse other women. He won't stop until he makes the decision that he has to stop or until someone makes him stop by taking him out of society, like the justice system who can put him in prison. The problem is, for him to be in prison means he's committed a terrible crime, a crime that could be you and your daughter seriously harmed or worse, losing your lives. Please call the number, Erika. The safety of you and your daughter depend on it. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Mar 11, 2012
 dont take him back, please
by: Anonymous

Erica please dont take that man back in your life....I am reading your story and I am crying like a little girl. I live with an abuser and I have an 18 months old daughter. I dont have any support or family around. You dont know how much I pray God every day to show me the way how to be smart and strong and leave.
I am not stupid, I am just trapped and scared of taking next step.
Please, leave him behind in your life.
All my hugs and prayers, be strong.

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