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May 17, 2013
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by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

This site was created primarily to give child abuse abuse victims a voice, a safe place to be heard. And though I've answered questions from my visitors in the past, my coaching practice, speaking engagements and writing no longer allows me time to do so.

You are posing scenarios that a lawyer would be in a better position to offer advice. What I can tell you is that changing a statement, or elaborating on one, will give ammunition to the defendant if it ever gets to court. They will challenge your ability to remember, even though studies show over and over that memories can be blocked or repressed and come back later. This could jeopardize a case if it ever got to court. The other thing I will pass along is that if you choose to go to court, you need to have done a lot of healing in order to avoid re-victimization. If you go trial expecting to get justice, but instead the system finds your abuser not guilty, or worse, finds you less believable or credible that your abuser, it could not only halt any healing progress, but set it back terribly. His admission of guilt may not even be admissible. If you spend your life trying to get justice against a system that isn't really in your court so to speak, then you will have spent years of your life continually giving power to your abuser and not living your own life. That doesn't mean you shouldn't pursue justice. I'm saying that it can't be your whole life, otherwise, your abuser continues to have power over you. If you choose to go this route, you must do so with your eyes wide open. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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