My Friend Experienced Childhood Sexual Abuse

by Tracey
(Canada)

My friend is a native female who was adopted out to a white Mormon family. She began to be molested around the age of 5 by the father and 1 or 2 sons. As well, around the age of 7, a native adult male who was visiting the home had sexual intercourse with her. When the fact that she was being molested by the men in the family came to light, this family began to ignore her and she left, living on the streets, which they simply let her go like that. No support ...coincidentally ,I now live in a city where the daughter of that family now lives and we both work for the City police force in an admin function. This situation is "driving me crazy!" I want to bring the topic up - I want some healing to begin.

In the last contact made between my friend and her adoptive sister, the sister asked her if she would just be leaving her parents alone now on this issue (as they're in their 80's and she cares for them.) I can understand that she is burdened yet again! The message: that what happened should just be swept under the carpet, forgotten, that my friend's pain and confusion doesn't matter.

I think the opportunity for healing exists in this situation...as our employer provides counselling - I think these two women could meet and share their lives...I feel that as fate has caused this woman and I to cross paths, I want to make effort for Peace and Reconciliation for my friend.

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