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Aug 07, 2008
 Love, understanding and possibly counselling...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Keep showing your son your love. Don't stop documenting the abuse, and don't stop reporting it when it occurs. But mostly, don't denigrate your son's father in front of him, because he will internalize the belittling remarks. He will believe himself to be flawed. It is the nature of children to blame themselves for all that is wrong around them and to blame themselves for any character flaws of the people they love most. Make YOUR home his soft place to fall without treating him like a victim or pitying him. And lastly, if at all possible, get your son into some form of counselling; play therapy is a type of therapy that has proven beneficial to very young children.

May justice remove the blindfolds and set rectifying eyes on the plight of your son. I wish you and he all the best.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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