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May 19, 2015
 Elizabeth:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You must do whatever needs to be done. And though this happened a while ago (I've not been able to post many stories on my site as of late, therefore, they've taken considerably longer to go live on the site that is typical), I trust that continued to protect your son from this serial abuser.

And just for the record, you can never blame yourself for what this abuser did to your son, if he did anything at all. Choosing to take a shower is not a selfish act. Choosing to abuse a child is both a criminal and cowardly act. Always remember that the abuser is responsible for his actions. Not you. You did not knowingly put your son in harms way. There is no parent on the planet that can be there for their child 100% of the time. All you can do is the best you can in whatever circumstances you're in. And if you do suspect that something has happened to your son, take the necessary steps to further protect him and keep him safe from additional harm. If you keep blaming yourself, your son will be able to read that, and that in and of itself could be detrimental to his well-being. That's not to say that you must be perfect or that you must not show emotion. But if you are constantly showing him and telling him that you are to blame, that's not good for his well-being either. You are doing the best you can. And yes, that IS good enough.

I send you both love, light and healing energy, Elizabeth. Thank you for sharing both your story and your son's with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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May 20, 2015
 tell the authorities
by: Anonymous

Thank you for telling your story. I never had children becuase I was afraid my brother would molest them I lived withmy brother after my Mother died. He never touched me after she died, but he would scare me at school. I finally told him in an e-mail EXACTLY what he did to me, in detail. I can never say anything anymore. I was seven and nine when he molested me. He has a grande daughter and I told him I wanted to protect her from him. I told him even criminals have children.
PLEASE go to the authorities about your brother. You have to protect yourself and your son from further abuse. It is a family illness, a generational illness and it is deadly, really.

Take care.
Jun 22, 2015
 Thank you
by: Anonymous

Thank you for reading my story . Just wanted to update, i jus came across this link to my story, and i wanted to add that yes, i wrote this some time ago, and that day was the beginning my very stressful, hard, exhausting, emotional , yet relaxing struggle! I am barely getting by, but im now in a safe enviorment , with my son , he has clean clothes on his back, food in his stomach , a constant smile on his face, and excitment and happiness in his eyes!! So im able to relax knowing hes safe and happy, and im able to take a shower and walk into thre next room for a few minutes to get some food or switch the laundry, knowing my son isnt being preyed upon. Im still adjusting to those moments tho. I still find myself stopping him from wat hes doing and holding his hand while i go anywhere throughout the day... or even when im going about my routine comfortably, and i have an unconscious flash back, i find myself on guard running to where my son is frantically. .. then having to sit down and clear my mind... because i find myself actually thinking im back at my parents house ... im going to start therapy soon.. because im realizing i dont fully understand what steps i need to take in order to free my mind .. and how to FULLY get to a place in my mind where im able to live a "normal" life... but i AM putting my calm face on for my son.. and i can see and feel the change happening in myself as well as the confidence my son has in me... i will never stop because im in love with the person in becoming and im finally excited for the future. Thank you for taking the time to actually read my story and i loved these 2 comments ive read so far. I really appreciate it !!

-"elizabeth"

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