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Dec 07, 2017
 To Kinga:
by: Darlene - Healing Coach

I understand the fear of being THAT kind of person to another. That you'd rather die than face you have that inside of you. Until I learned that I had the ability to make choices for myself that WEREN'T that of my parents. I wasn't doomed to repeat what they did in the way they repeated what was done to them. I could break the cycle. And I know that you can too. How do I know this? Because you're questioning it. You're determined NOT to be that kind of person.

Sending you loving healing energy, Kinga.

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Darlene Barriere
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Dec 08, 2017
 One thing u said...
by: Anonymous

I sympathize with all of what u wrote, but one aspect REALLY resonated with me. Your being told u were loved as much as it's possible for a person 2B loved - or words to that effect, please correct me if I'm wrong - by the people abusing u, that's EXACTLY what happened to me by my parents. Resulting, as it did with u - again, correct me if I'm wrong - in a deeply hopeless conviction about life and the future having nothing better to offer than your parents' brand of "love". For me, it threw me into utter despair, from as early as I can remember, like age 2. They laid out and explained " love" to me in a way that destroyed any hope in my soul. They WERE nice sometimes, in their dead, empty way, and so I felt loved just enough to be able to believe there was nothing better out there in terms of love. Including from God, even, if u apply what they're saying to every possible source of love.

I often feel that,among all their other miserable, nasty abuse, this assuring me that they loved me when it didn't really feel like love,might have been the WORST thing they did to me, because it destroyed all hope for the future for me.

Blessings to u, esp. Healing!

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