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Mar 20, 2010
 You have some interesting thoughts and ideas...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I hope you'll pursue some of those thoughts and ideas. I believe you could be a powerful advocate for such change. Thank you for sharing with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Mar 22, 2010
 Get yourself & children out,not get even!!!!!!!!!
by: Benz there, got out !

Instead of focusing on what the law or others don't do, what are u doing for you & your childdren? Staying, or trying to beat them at their own game, just piles more lies, anger, abuse upon all of you. If you continue to stay in the abuse, fight the abusers on the home front, or get even, you've already did yourself & your children a disservice. You are the one who needs to get yourself & your children free, not up to the abuser to give you permission , or for others to change. Nothing will cahnge until you & your children leave that abuser, & that environment, & don't look back, don't get revenge, just get the hell out ,....your lives depend upon it.Laws or others can't help you, if you won't make the changes you need to make so that the abuse & insanity stops. Contact 211 to find help/shelters in your area. As long as you live your lifeout of fear & anger, fear & anger will always be apart of your life. You need to get out, & rely upon someone reliable,that's not man, but a Higher Power, to help you.Without His help, no power, laws,etc., on earth can help. If you or your children keep in contact with the abuser, it will be easier for them to find you. Don't run to or away from the abuser, ......walk as fast as possible, strong, & confident that you're taking you & your children into a better life, a life of recovery. Recovery takes time, but we gotta invest in it, our lives depend upon it. You're not alone ! Don't let the enemy win! You're worth it, & so ae your children.... get bold & do whatever it takes to get you & them out of that hell, & into the light of recovery, & hope.
One of my vivid memories was of being forced to take scalding hot baths as a child. One day I just couldn't make myself get into the tub; they said it was all in my mind, & that the water wasn't scalding hot. So I said ok, then my puppy was going to take the tubby with me.Puppy went into the tub, and.....the burns on my puppy, the screams, & the heart attack it had, saved my life that day. I lost a confidont,& a guardian angel in my life that day.God knew that I didn't mean for the puppy to die. Never had to take a scalding hot bath after that.Know my puppy's looking down on me in love, I was glad that he spared me any more of that horrific torture.
Think....and realize it's not up to the abuser or others to change , or to change your circumstances, or life. That choice & responsibility is yours to make to begin a better life for all of you.
Mar 30, 2010
 a circle of lies , and denial
by: Anonymous

I have been reading the stories and i wanted to say something

one of the stories then after them came more and the ages envolved is what got me

i spent years defending innocent and young people
family tryed to. from the system and there are no laws to really protect them,


now i see from your stories what we have done as a group the adults and ones in charge
and well the laws dont do anything

think kind of in reverse, meaning,
where does it start
we failed the children the young adults
we failed them, and then for whatever reason whether its valid or not
doesnt make a difference
and worse the laws open doors to systemss that abuse in my opinion, and they make mistakes
and sickenesses we should have taken responsibilty for , had we known, yes but
so what, still in stead of correcting it
the way they look at it they say, one mistake or once in there they dont question why , health care doesnt , and look how lazy docotor s are give pills easy solution to fix, and people die
from that , and then, with in thier system
abusers who taught this as a life , like well you did this these young people and what if what done to them they end up abusers , think well
thier fault they end up getting to a system where with abusers sort of breed off each other
then where are the clearly defined lines
between, cases where there are young people
doctors and puberty where permiscus meaning hormones and all one girl admitted , honest one
and the case before that, story where the girl said talked into it both young adult and minor yes but young people, clear lines and clear ages and clear results not just some jumbo, bunch thrown together then well thats why there are groups with in the systems , once they get the young ones , thats it, end up worse so we allow this the courts to multiply bad things, and groups form with in the systems then unseen waiting for more victims prey on what they
any,

how horrible the burdens, on young people adults and minor too, and i am effected just reading this and just knowing famililes like yours
i hate this , why dont we do something
our system failed us. they do and they liewhy or what would it have hurt if they just got help , anything, discusts me, and also why did someone abuse its a desease isnt it,
well if you beleive the system then well you this, from your abuse
see thats how they look at you , once you get abused you are part of that group
then the system with in takes control uses
the ones go forth and all and doent help anyone
how many stories of you successes here are from the courts helping you or the systems or police how many , none, i bet.
social services have with in bad and lies
foster care well everyone knows that ,
courts , make it a criminal thing instead of solutions , they punish
easy , easy money and well
lawyers they too like money
what adoptions too ,
where are the biological parents

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