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Dec 14, 2017
 To Sarah:
by: Darlene - Healing Coach

Almost all of us who were abused have something good that happened with the people who abused us. And for us as younger kids, that's confusing and crazy-making.

This is what I've learned along the path I've walked, Sarah: That our abusive parents are less "villians" and more "victims". Not an excuse, but an explanation. Something in their own history speaks to why they do the nasty and terrible stuff they do. Alcohol and drugs is a way for them to bury it all, to drown out the pain and demons. Which brings on even more demons.

I also learned that I don't have to play the game they are playing. And I didn't. I would not enable them, no matter what they said or did. They can continue to choose to live as victims, but you don't have to. You get to choose for yourself how you're going to respond. To all of it. But it will take internal strength. An internal strength you have already demonstrated you have.

I send you loving healing energy, Sarah.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
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