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Mar 10, 2008
Indecent exposure
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Although I cannot say for certain that your boyfriend indecently exposed himself as a result of abuse he suffered and/or witnessed, what I can say is that abuse victims can exhibit a host of signs. As a child, he had no power. As an adult, he does.

Regardless of the reasons, you can't be making excuses for him. Your boyfriend is now an adult, and as such, he must know that exposing himself to another is wrong and unlawful. He needs help, so it's good that you suggested counselling for him. I can only hope that he actually attends.

Chelsie, I do not offer any relationship advice. What I will tell you, in the words of Dr. Phil: The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour. If you decide to stay with this man, go into it with your eyes wide open. I recommend counselling for you too. A counsellor may be able to help you unravel some of the emotions you are now dealing with.

I wish you and your boyfriend all the best.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir


Jun 06, 2011
indecent exposure
by: Anonymous

I am also in a horrible place due to my husband being arrested for indecent exposure in January this year. I just cant get my head around it he was a very good man very sensible and trustworthy. We have been married for nearly 4 years I have been married before and have 3 children he as be wonderful to all of us through all the bad time. He said he wasnt handling things me not been close was the last straw and said it was escaping from things a risk he as be for help and is dealing with things put I cant handle it and hes spoilt everything we had and i feel its my fault for being so nasty to him close friend have been really good and understanding. But a few have been horrible. I just dont know what to do.

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