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Apr 02, 2012
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by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Very thoughtful article. Some time back, I wrote an article for this site that speaks to the phenomenon of the "targeted child", titled Why parents target a specific child for abuse. Expectations not being met is among the many reasons (not an excuse, but rather, an explanation for targeting a child for abuse). And while psychologists and those in the field try to analyze the brain and psyche for answers to this troubling phenomena, it often comes down to the age old question: Is it nature or nurture? In some cases, I believe it's both. But what we DO know is that when support services are readily available to new parents, and when they understand how children grow and mature, and what is typical child behaviours, we are more successful at reducing abuse. This is in part because expectations tend to be more reasonable on the part of the parents. The "goodness of fit" aspect becomes less of a factor when parents have a strong support system in place and their expectations are reasonable. Of course, given the lack of space and time, I'm forced to be very simplistic; the issue is much more complicated. Thank you for sharing your perspective with my visitors and me.

P.S. Love the pic of the cats.

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