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Nov 08, 2010
 To Anonymous:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story and your thoughts on this controversial subject with my visitors and me. I can only hope that eventually you are able to reconcile your feelings about the effects diaper discipline has had on you.

And my apologies for the length of time it took to post this here. I've had many stories, articles, commentaries, etc in queue and I've been working on a court case as of late. My time has been very limited. It also takes a great deal of time to move comments. It's not a simple move, but rather a lot of copying and pasting, and then posting to ensure all remains intact.

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Nov 21, 2010
 thank you
by: Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your story with us. I too was punished for bedwetting with diapers?the chronic bedwetting was for me likely a symptom of the sexual abuse I had been subjected to at that age?and it scarred and hurt me greatly. By 7 years old I had that fascination with diapers, which went on into my teen years.

Anyway, its brave to admit and talk about this, and how it can effect our lives. It is most definitely abuse to do this to a child, definitely ignorant, cruel, and disgusting. Bedwetting is never the child?s fault, and it should be treated with sensitivity and kindness.
Jan 13, 2011
 @ anonymous above
by: Anonymous

Thank you for contributing. I shared this in hopes of raising awareness but also to offer insight as to how actions regarding the use of diapers on children can have long term negative consequences. Most people understand the emotional consequences. Very few people understand the logistical consequences. For example, the average person would typically perceive a an adult having a diaper fetish as a strange abnormality and perhaps even connect it with pedophilia. Rarely would people consider the potential that it is possibly related to child abuse (or poor parenting in the scenario of misguided but well meaning parents). I suppose "walk in other's shoes" applies here. Our society is ultra concerned about children's well being, and rightfully so. What makes this affliction so difficult to discuss is the potential ramifications of people misunderstanding the nature of the logistical remnants in adulthood of actions occurring during childhood. It's really difficult. I have spoken to one counselor about this and even they were apprehensive. The only people I allow to know about this (outside of anonymous conversations such as this) are those that understand innately who I am and therefore will assume the best and not the worst. They will likely not understand the issue BUT they will also not persecute me based on fear or insecurity. This is a very very limited group.
Aug 21, 2012
 Forever cursed
by: Robert P. U.S.A.

I'm so glad to read that this aspect of diaper discipline is being talked about. Being degraded and humiliated is devestating to a child - true, but the long term effects can be just as damaging and far reaching. I know because I experienced it first hand and have spent my entire life struggling with it's aftermath in both my relationships and my own feelings of self worth. My sexuality has been so misdirected, I have never been able to carry on my life in what most would consider normal behavior.

I am almost 70 years old and was punished with diapers several times as a child between the age of 6 and 10 years old. I have since been uncontrollably turned onto wearing diapers for sexual gratification. I can barely respond sexually in a conventional manner and seem to require scene playing my childhood humiliations with diapers in order to enjoy sex. Understandably this has made my marriage and life extremely difficult. It took several years before I could bring myself to tell my wife about my fetishes because I was so ashamed. Even though she eventually learned to deal with it, our life has hardly been considered blissful. We could never enjoy what would be considered a normal relationship even though I went to counseling for years and really tried hard to conform. I just couldn't redirect my sexual preferences.

I'm ever so grateful she stayed with me but my addictions cost us both so much heartache and despair. Sadly, she passed away a couple of years ago after 45 years of marriage. I truly love my wife and would give up anything for her including my life but I honestly could not control this compulsive urge to repeatedly relive my childhood traumas. I still see that woman leaning over me with her hateful grin even after many years of therapy. There are so many times I have cried from despair for not having the strength to stop my addictive behavior. I wish I could go back and have her experience the humiliation and shame she put me through. I'm still haunted knowing she was never made accountable for what she did.

Sorry for dumping on all of you but I just had to respond to this post because I want everyone to know how serious this form of child abuse can effect a persons life....ENTIRE life! For me, it has already been over 60+ years so I guess I'll die with this compulsive disorder. I hope this post shows just how destructive this form of punishment truly is to a child. So much suffering under the disguise of discipline. It's not discipline, it's the destruction of a human mind, an abuse of the worst kind.

I wish I had answers as to how it could be stopped because my heart breaks just knowing other children are possibly experiencing what I did. All I can do is visit sites like this one and hope just maybe my exposing my life will stop someone from destroying a child, maybe for their entire life.

God bless you all and I pray you find the peace in your heart I never could.

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