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Nov 20, 2008
 My thoughts...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Support groups can be very therapeutic, and I am all for such groups, as long as there is someone with knowledge, experience and a sense of professionalism who can act as a moderator; otherwise, such a forum can too easily stray from its intended goals. Without an experienced moderator, forums can lose focus and become a place for complaints and criticism instead of a place for healing and recovery. And with spanking fetish, the forum can even more easily become another place to post more fetishism under the pretext of "sharing personal experience", which can further fuel the fetish for those reading the posts. I've had to deal with this myself when visitors submit their stories to my site. I frequently edit out what amounts to gratuitous references that my visitors could interpret more as spanking fetish than child abuse story. And I don't post submissions that I feel were written as fetishism masquerading as child abuse stories. These would be similar issues that would have to be addressed in such a support forum.

I believe with the proper moderator, a support forum for those suffering from spanking abuse and fetish would benefit greatly. Thank you for sharing your idea here.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Nov 23, 2008
 my thoughts
by: kristen

I am looking for somewhere to talk. I was physically punished as a child and even after I was married I told my husband that he should punish me and there is a lot more that I want to talk about there. I am not sure if that counts as fetish but anyway.

I have learned that I can not talk about it with people who are a part of my world now. In the past, like when I was little, talking about it to someone meant that the authorities got involved and later in life I learned that if I tried to talk about it to people, they would do things like not believe me or then avoid me or worse still tell my parents who then would punish me.

So right now I have this need to talk but just can't talk to my friends. I just know that they would freak out or avoid me or worse bring in the police. I want to keep my friends and family. I love them. I cant be alone.

So having a support group would be nice.

Just my thoughts.
kristen.
Nov 23, 2008
 a good idea
by: scott

That would be a great idea,personally I dont think I would contribute.I had a hard enough time telling my story the first time.But others may want to,may do good. Really just letting it go may be the best for some.Not dwelling on it.You cant change the past.
Nov 27, 2008
 debates.
by: scott

***Moved to this thread by Darlene Barriere - Webmaster***

spanking forums often turn into debates.I get to hear how some of you spank your kids.You do it this way and another person does it that way.The thing that bothers me most is how degrading it is for the child.Not only is it very,very painfull,but being nude is humiliating,and some of you think humility is part of the punishment.Like I said I don't want to turn it into a debate ,but don't you remember you beatings,Or should I use the term spankings? I do.I remember being undressed in front of 25 other children in class.If you truely remember how bad YOUR spankings were than you would'nt be subjecting you children or someone elses to it.I remember,don't you? Bend over,hold your ankles.I blush just thinking about it and how it hurt.If I ever manage to have kids I just could'nt see me performing that act on them,because I remember.

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