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Mar 07, 2011
 Jose:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You're a very caring and compassionate man. I can see that. Whether or not you see results from your methods, you must stay true to yourself, your values and your beliefs. And don't be too quick to brush off the positive effects your methods can have on these children long term. You also have to make some tough choices. These children are being abused...if you can't make the abuse stop or in any way affect change in the lives of these children so that they aren't being abused, you have a duty to report the abuse. If you can't have an adult conversation with your wife to affect change in the way she treats these children, then you have to decide if that's a deal breaker. Children have to come first, Jose. They do not have a voice on their own. Harsh as it sounds, now you have to decide what's more important: the children, or your relationship needs. Because that's really what's at stake here. Thank you for sharing with my visitors and me.

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Dec 04, 2011
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by: Anonymous

Jose, you illustrate just how deeply parenting shapes children into the adults they will become. Spoiled children are conditioned to excpect everything to come easy, and have a low frustration tolerance when things don't automatically go the way they want. They are conditioned to become entitled, selfish adults. Neglected children also grow up to be irresponsable adults, who cannot tie consequences to behavior, and both exhibit a toddler's coping skills--raging and wailing at the slightest discomfort. They were raised to expect that consequences don't apply to them. This is how we raise future abusers!
Abusers are made, not born. Parents are the key in deciding whether their children grow to responsable, caring adults...or personality disordered, selfish, narcissistic abusers. Children are so vulnerable and sculptable. They are shaped based on what their parents instill. By what they reward, ignore, or deny.

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