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Dec 17, 2014
 Julia:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It is not at all unusual that when a daughter has a father who rejects her that she tries to find the love he didn't give her in other guys. And it's not at all uncommon for her to look for it with guys that are every bit as abusive as her father was, sometimes even more so. You are worthy of being treated with dignity and respect, Julia. And that must start with your Self. You must believe that you're worthy, and then treat your Self with dignity and respect and self-love. Your father is the one who missed out. And his rejection of you had nothing to do with you, but everything to do with HIM. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.

When we try to find the love that is so desperately missing in our lives, we tend to look in places that are unhealthy. In people that are troubled and oftentimes even twisted. That's because we still believe that we don't deserve to be treated well.

When you look to others for your self-worth, when you define that worth by whether or not you have someone in your life, you give your power away to that person. Take back your power, Julia. What others think of you is not important. It's what YOU think of you that matters. You are complete and whole all on your own. And though it's always wonderful to have someone supportive and encouraging and loving to share your life with, when you first find your own power and independence, you begin to make healthier choices for yourself, and then the door opens for someone healthy to walk into your life.

What happened to you wasn't your fault. You didn't deserve to be mistreated by your father or your mother. And you certainly don't deserve to be mistreated by the guys in your life. Take back your power, Julia. THAT'S what you deserve. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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