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Apr 25, 2008
 Canada's spanking law...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

JWC, we're in agreement on this contentious issue. I've made my position on spanking known throughout this website: There are too many undesirable side effects to make this form of discipline both effective and appropriate.

As for the Supreme Court of Canada ruling with regard to spanking, in essence, they ruled on three issues.
  1. That parents should not be charged with a criminal offense and thus be subject to incarceration if they utilize "reasonable" corporal punishment as discipline. Therefore, they chose NOT to criminalize spanking, which was the intent and hope of child and human rights activists who challenged the law that allows parents to spank their children.

    The Court further ruled that there be clear limits and guidelines set with regard to the child's age and the use of implements for the purpose of spanking:

  2. Children under the age of two and over the age of twelve are not to be spanked.

  3. The use of implements is prohibited, as the use of implements or weapons goes beyond "reasonable" corrective force.
If all parents were reasonable, we wouldn't need laws that set limits; but the fact is, parents aren't always reasonable. Setting guidelines and limits with regard to corrective and reasonable force IS necessary. I applaud Assemblywoman Lieber for sponsoring such a bill.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Nov 03, 2008
 Spanking: Legally sanctioned child abuse
by: Mark

I too find it difficult to differentiate the difference between child abuse and spanking. If you were to punch your child it would be considered abuse, but you can strip off the child's clothes and beat the child's bare buttocks with a belt, hairbrush or other object and it is okay, because that's considered a spanking. It just does not make sense. You could not even hit a dog with a belt without the SPCA coming after you.
Aug 22, 2009
 NO CHILD SPANKING
by: Anonymous

Spanking and paddling are sexual. If you get on the internet you can perhaps find many spanking and paddling videos which are sexually arousing. Men, and potentially women, across the universe "get off" to spanking thoughts and footage all the time. This being said, do we really think it is even remotely appropriate for people to be doing this in a threatening manner to children?

I hope that you can do all you have the power to do in order to raise awareness and help to put an end to this misguided treatment of children. As I and other citizens will strive to do as well.

As a child, I and other children were threatened by this and I knew it was very wrong for them to be doing it, however I was just a child and I did not know what to do.(I guess I still am not sure what to do about it) It left a disturbing imprint to this day.

I know the words spanking and paddling are sexually arousing to many of us, however if we do not get this out in the open, I do not see how we are going to put an end to the horrible mistaken use of a most wonderful action when conducted between mutually consensual lovers.

Sincerely
Mar 12, 2012
 never with a board
by: Anonymous

when a parent or step-parent is allowed to use a board on a child there is something bad wrong with our world!!! Especially when the children are very well disiplined children. But even if they weren't well behaved, there are other and better ways to get the job done so they will listen better and do better. We need to make sure that in Missouri it IS against the law for a board to be used on children of any ages.

From Darlene - Webmaster: On this website, never with a board or anything else. This site deals with the dark side of ALL spanking.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
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