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Mar 30, 2011
 Wendy:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It's not unusual to not remember what happened when there was trauma in our childhood. The mind is an amazing part of our body. When we can't deal with what's going on around us, our mind protects us by blocking out the memories. It's possible that you will remember at some point, but not necessarily. What's important is how you respond to things now. If you look at this memory loss in a negative light, instead of seeing it for the coping skills it really is, then you'll continue to invite negativity into your life. See the positive in the way your mind and body took care of you. And please seek out some form of counseling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of what you do remember. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 30, 2011
 Wendy
by: GPM

Darlene is correct when she refers to the not remembering events of your childhood. What it may be is a form of repressed memory. If you experience something you don't understand, or haven't knowledge that the experience is some form of abuse because of your age, you may not have thought it necessary to mentally assign an importance, significance, to it. It is obvious to me you were in an extremely disfunctional and unstable environment. Wendy, at that age you probably were just trying to stay out of the way, and out of the pain.

Now that you are older, and those events from your past surface from time to time, you begin to feel very uncomfortable with those thoughts. Now you feel betrayed, humiliated, embarrassed, and probably downright angry. There might even be a significant amount of "guilt" you may be dealing with.

You do not have any reason to to feel you are somehow responsible for what happened- you share no blame, therefore you share no burden of guilt. You can free yourself from all the other harm done you, to some extent, by getting counseling. Once you let all these pent secrets out into the light of day, you'll never be afraid of the darkness again- but let a professional help you with it. You've made the first big step by revealing your repression. It's all downhill and smooth sailing from here.
Mar 30, 2011
 Please, oh Please go for counselling: It will benefit you:
by: maurice

Wendy: Don't give up: Don't Quit: Your late cry for help can be turned into a huge new beginning in your life: Darlene has given you loving, affirming in the hope you will understand: get help, think positive: act positive: be positive: hug and cuddle LOVE into you: Be gentle and kind to yourself and your body: Sadly what happens in our childhood is out of our control: we are not to blame: we live in fear: we just do as we are told without questioning Why Mammy: Why Daddy are you abusing me or why are you allowing all these bad bad people do all this kind of stuff to me: sexually abusing me: Humiliating me: degrading me: making me feel dirty: making me take drink/drugs to blot it all out: Your Mother Wendy was not a real mother: she did not protect you: she did not love and cherish you: She was a sicko, out and out: Now you must try and get on with your life: Don't blame yourself: don't harm yourself in anyway: get a real friend or two around you who are your own age and gender: free of drugs/drink who will love, care, value and respect you for the beautiful woman you are now: Move on: Live the now time: be safe: stay safe: Seek out counselling/therapy and you will truly know the difference in a short while: Wendy you are one very courageous woman to search for and find Darlene site: good on you:

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