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Oct 18, 2012
 TK:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

No one here will ever tell you, "Cry me a river" or anything even remotely similar. This is a safe haven; a place to share your story, feelings and emotions without worry of judgment. I make sure of that. Some who share here have very horrific stories, others perhaps not as horrific, but certainly they were adversely affected by what they DID endure. And that's what it's all about; how you were impacted by what you suffered through. I know what you're dealing with TK. I dealt with very similar situations as you: bullied at home about my weight, bullied at school as well. This isn't a "tough love" situation. You were emotionally and physically abused; and now you're questioning everything about your Self. But these have all been lies. The truth is that you are perfect as you are. You are not the nasty things others, including your mother/parents, have called you. What's important is to look inward, see your Self as You Really Are. And Who You Really Are is so much deeper than you might realize. You said something here that shows me you're a wonderful person, TK. You said that even though your family has money, you still take responsibility for your own money by working to pay for what you want. That's fantastic! You have integrity. I also see a person with tremendous character. Someone who is kind and compassionate. THAT'S part of Who You Really Are, TK. Embrace that about your Self, and keep telling your Self how wonderful you are because that's the real truth. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Oct 18, 2012
 TK...
by: Anonymous

TK, your family is wrong. You're not fat; you're not disgusting; you're not ugly; you're beautiful. You're not lazy; you're not stupid; you're very smart, intelligent and articulate. You're not nasty; you're not mean; you're a nice, kind, sweet, good person. You're not worthless; you're worthy of love, protection, dignity and respect, all of which you were cruelly denied of. You're not weak; you're strong. I hope you're in a safe place now; if not, please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you.
Oct 19, 2012
 anxiety
by: Scott 1

Hunny..anxiety from my past in exactly what you are feeling. So I can assume its normal. Not right...but an expected response to years of abuse. Yes you were abused.

Youll have to read my story to understand where my fear and trembling of authority comes from. But it has last effects..I understand..and Im sorry. You have things to work through. But knwo that you arent alone, and your abuse isnt measured on a scale of worse or not...its not a place to judge. Its a place to vent, understand and get advice adn share with others when we do feel we are the only ones.

Abusers use lies. Dont believe the lies.
Oct 29, 2012
 Thank you so much
by: TK

I've been afraid to check back here- this is still something I have a hard time accepting.

I think that what happened to me happened partially because of high functioning autism that went undiagnosed until I was twelve or thirteen.

Before then, people just thought I was stupid and had behavioral problems. If anything, I almost BLAME my family for what used to happen- autistics don't like to be touched, and in the best case scenario, if I got upset about being cuddled/hugged/what have you the person wouldn't let go. In the worst case scenario, I'd get yelled at or slapped (incidentally, yelling and corporal punishment are the two worst possible discipline methods for an autistic child).

My mom also used to make jokes about sending me to the "school for retards", where she'd pretend to call it if I stimmed. It took me years to figure out what it all meant.

Incidentally, is it okay to use a disability to punish a kid? When I got diagnosed with OCD (I freak out when recyclables get thrown away), my mom would make me watch her throw away paper and plastic.

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