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Oct 20, 2009
 There is great risk to you and your baby without resources...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Shayla, thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I applaud your determination and the fact that you haven't allowed your past to interfere with your ability to further your education and move on with your life. You said you are about to graduate from high school; I gather you are still an adolescent. There is so much involved to raising a child, so much more than I can possibly put in this comment. For the sake of your yet unborn child and you, I do hope you have resources available to ensure the baby's health and care. You are both at risk without such resources. Do reach out to any and all organizations in your area. You and your baby are too precious not to.

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Oct 20, 2009
 Even animals would never treat their young so sadistically
by: Anonymous

Shayla, I'm sorry that you guys don't have a good mom because you guys (you and your brothers, of course) really did nothing wrong. You guys are not to blame; your so-called parents are to blame...even your dad is an enabler because he should've protected you guys, so he is just as responsible for her cruel and sadistic brutality as your "mother" herself. I can relate to that coward of a social worker not helping you at all; in fact, one social worker used to come over and...the last time she came over, well, she literally mocked me, laughed in my face and told me that I "deserved to be punished for being bad" and that I was "trying to dishonor my 'mother'", that I "break the rules in the house", that I never "listened to my 'parents'" and the like...and with that, I never trusted her again, so all I have left now is this site, my friends and even animals. Have you and your brothers tried counselling? I really hope you guys are in a safe place now because you guys can always move on...your abusers, especially your so-called mother; they will get their karma someday. Be brave and stay strong. God bless you and your brothers.
Oct 21, 2009
 To thine own self be true/The truth will set you free
by: Maurice

Shayla, Darlene's words to you are ever so real. Love is at the center of her comment to you, your child and the child Mother. You are brave, Be strong now for yourself, your baby and her mother You have overcome a very harsh form of abuse and I agree with you when YOU say Don't blame what happens to you. on the problems you have, You (we) make the choice to be like that. This I like very much YOU CAN BE BETTER THAN WHOEVER IT WAS THAT DID THAT TO YOU. I AM. I accept that Shayla but I can safely say after many years coping with having been abused. No matter what that is a daily struggle to live. So be true to yourself, now your Baby and her mother. As Darlene rightly puts it you are still an adolecent, young adult having done very good for yourself by persevering with your education. Good on YOU shayla. I believe in YOU. Always believe in YOURSELF.
Oct 21, 2009
 childhood trauma can help or hurt you. you choose.
by: Anonymous

As I child I was not raped but I was molested by numerous guys. And I watched my brother be raped. It affected me because now I have a hard time saying no to anyone. Just last week I was walking at night and a guy tried raping me and I couldnt yell at him, I held my legs tight around his waste so he couldnt get inside me. I wanted to scream at him but I just calmly kept telling him that I had to go and he kept telling me I could go in a little bit. My mom used to abuse me when I was little, but Im 18 and about to have a little boy and I am going to be nothing like my mom. Im going to watch who my kid is around and what he does. My kid I dont want him to go through the things I WENT THROUGH. And if I find out my kid is doing things that guys did to me aia will be so upset I want to raise my son right.
Oct 21, 2009
 Never give up
by: Anonymous

I have to say you seem to be very strong, and optimistic. I love your veiw on life now and i agree with you 100%. I too had a hard childhood and however i don't belive it counts as abuse, just more so what i witnessed....my mom became ill imediatly after i was born, i repeatetly witnessed her attempting to kill herself.. a lot of my memorys of her are thoughs of visiting her in her hospital room..she became an alcholic, had bipolar disorder, sever personality disorder, borderline personality disorder and anarexia. my mom was never their for me emotoinaly because she couldn't be mentaly...My teens years came and i too started having problems because of my past. the dr. said i was emotoinal scared and have sever anxiety. I don't let my past interfere with who i am now. I wish you all the luck with your baby it is going to be tough i will not lie. I myself am a single mom all on my own. My son is three and I am 22. I was in an abusive relatoinship with my sons father and he forced me to get pregnate. He's not in the picture any more. My life is what i made of it too.. Never give up even when times seem oh so hard your not alone. Though i didn't experiance child abuse, i know your pain and can still relate. continue to keep your head up high.You are a very strong woman

From Darlene: Anonymous, based on what you wrote, you DID experience child abuse...emotional child abuse and child neglect. They are the most difficult of the abuses to overcome.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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