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Feb 03, 2011
 Shawnte:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You have nothing NOTHING to be embarrassed about. None of this is on you; all of it is on your abusers. You are applying mature adult values on what you did and didn't do as a little girl. You were a little girl, Shawnte, a little girl without any power. The power was in the hands of your parents, and they misused that power, which left you to deal with the abuse all by yourself, which inn turn could be why you repressed the memories of the trauma. The fact that you began remembering what happened to you when you were about 25 says that at that time your body and mind were ready to actually start dealing with what happened to you. And you DID start dealing with it. I have only admiration for you, Shawnte. I hope you'll stay in counseling in order to completely process all the abuse, betrayal and abandonment. You didn't deserve to be abused; you deserve the help now that you have. Thank you for sharing your story and your all-important message with my visitors and me.

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Feb 04, 2011
 Flashbacks...
by: AnonymousT

...are the worst. Because they're teling a story you can't remember having happened. You just have to let them come & have coping skills (therapy can teach those, ask your therapist)to work through them. I'm so sorry your parents were so horrible.

It seems our 30's is when they really start coming. Like the 20's we're too immature & our 30's we're old enough to learn to heal. If that makes sense. All the luck in the world to you on your journey.

T
Feb 09, 2011
 flashbacks
by: Scott 1

I cant say I have the desire to go through these flashbacks. From what I understand it happens once the mind is ready to deal with the burried trauma and the mind knows its now safe to deal with it. Im 46 and still waiting. Not that I want them....but at least I would get a glimps into what I cant remember. I dont understand how its not yet safe for me to remember.
Feb 09, 2011
 To Scott1:
by: AnonymousT

Our mind is a mysterious thing, it withholds what it thinks we're not ready for. All we can do is accept there's "Stuff" and let it come when IT decides it's time. Frustrating, I know.

My flashbacks were very vague and I've gone a full year without more. I understand your confusion!

T

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