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Feb 27, 2010
 Shattered Mind:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. When others tell us that we're "exaggerating" or they simply don't believe us, we are re-victimized, in part because we are basically being told we're liars, but also, in part because as victims we tend not to tell because we are afraid we won't be believed. That was why you didn't report to the police in the past. But the police are seldom the route to go. Social Services are the place to turn, even though they too are known to drop the ball. You are now an adult, and as such, you can now make decisions for yourself. I'm glad you're no longer seeing the therapist who wouldn't believe you. Just remember that not all therapists are created equally.

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Feb 27, 2010
 Your parents are out of control
by: Anonymous

Shattered Mind, nothing will ever be your fault. You were the child; your parents were the adults. They had so much power and they only misused it. They have problems and they need help. I also hope that you keep getting the help that you need.
Feb 27, 2010
 I hope...
by: KC

I'm glad that you are getting help. I hope that for your sake you are in a position where they no longer have any ability to control or manipulate you. If you have not left them, consider doing so, for your own sake. No one should have any control but that which you grant them, and you are not in the wrong in what you tried to do, or in whatever choices you make. Find a friend to live with, rent an apartment of your own, anything to get away from them, because no matter how scary starting out on your own is, it's got to be better than where you are now. Create boundaries and refuse to allow them to cross them. If you feel you must maintain contact with them do so only in situations where you feel in control and safe from them.
I hope things work out,
KC
Feb 28, 2010
 Get away from them
by: Anonymous

I found I had to move away from the family and not let them know where I was to feel safe enough to even begin to heal. That was 20 years ago and I'm still working at getting past it. I was abused mostly by my mother, who sexually, verbally, emotionally, physically and any other way she could abused me. Her many husbands and male friends came and went, but the abuse was everpresent. I won't go into details, because they are many and I can't afford the triggers of them right now, but mother is a narcissist, bordering on sociopath and will never change. It was my responsibility at that point to quit taking care of her and begin taking care of me, to quit worrying about how to handle them and just handle my own problem, to save myself before it was too late. Counseling and medications are a must if there is a LOT of abuse. You just can't do it by yourself. Only my brother came out of "the family" too. My sister is still in it and my other brother has been in prison for 33 years, but is still in "the family". You can't stay around the family and get well, because they will continue to reduce you to their level and pull you under with them.
Mar 02, 2010
 GET OUT NOW!
by: Helen Louise

I grew up in that kind of situation. I had to leave and to live among normal people to begin to heal. Please find help for yourself. Do not give time to people who deny what you are going through. There are lots of people out there who will believe in you and support you. Good luck.
Mar 06, 2010
 had same problem
by: Anonymous

yo bro your story is powerful i had the same problem before they way i fixed it was well..i moved to a diffrent state farrrrr away from them change my number got a house got a job and then i just 4got all thos problems and pretended it didnt happen its hard i know but it takes about a month or more or so and got a wife and kids im a hella better parent then mine but what im sayin is just leave man get out quick get a family get someting YOU can be proud of and not what your parents say or think your an adlut now dude they cant push you around anymore its scary i know its scary alot to stand up to them but its time you move on its time im move on that was the past the past is the past i know its hard man its really hard to 4get all that happen i know how it is...but im over it now im 34 years old i got a life a famiy and not seen my parents in 10 years and damnit im proud of that that now i dont have to worry about my parents abusing my kids or trying to screw up my life im safe over here they have no idea where i am now ive never felt more safe...hope my adive works and hope things trun out right...good luck man
Dec 05, 2010
 Social Services No Good
by: Anonymous

I tried social services in high school. They, in collaboration with my parents, made it clear to me that I didn't matter and had better shut up or else. That is the hardest part of my childhood to deal with as an adult. Even if they aren't exactly mean to you, its likely that they won't be able or very willing to help a teenager without physical injuries. Emotional abuse is hard to prove and isn't taken very seriously, especially with teenagers. (Except of course if you get into a lot of trouble!)

Fortunately you are now old enough to protect yourself from them.

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