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Mar 15, 2008
 So much pain...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Oh Sean, I can't even begin to imagine the suffering you had to endure. To have been beaten and raped repeatedly by the man who should have been protecting you; to have been cast out and blamed (a little boy, for god's sake) for a rape that you were conceived through and then AND THEN to be made to suffer in the way your molesting and contemptible "old man" believed the rapist should have suffer with...heinous crimes were committed against you, Sean. You were not—ARE NOT—that crime that was rape. You came into this world an innocent baby. You were perfect as you were. You were a lovable little boy. You deserved to be loved and nurtured and hugged and held and treated with dignity and respect. You STILL deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. You STILL deserve to be loved.

Sean, you've earned the anger, hostility and hatred. Allow yourself to feel it...then let it go. As a child you had no power over what that cowardly sex offending "man" and his equally cowardly sex offending "friends" did to you, you had no power to get your mother to do her job and protect you from harm. As an adult, you can take back your power. You can choose to allow what those spineless rapists (they were no better than your mother's rapist; they were worse, violating you, a helpless little boy) did to you continue to control you and every aspect of your life. If you do allow them to control you, that anger will consume you, the YOU that has so much to offer. And you DO have so much to offer, Sean; you have amazing strength—you proved that by surviving the worst of abuses. OR Sean, you can choose to NOT allow those despicable rapists to take up one more second of one more day of your life.

You've taken a courageous first step by writing your story; I'm honoured that you would choose this site to finally disclose. And while I understand the safety of the anonymity of that, I also see it as a plea for more help. I strongly urge you to take your doctor's advice and talk to someone, a counsellor, about what happened to you. A counsellor can help you unravel the emotional turmoil. You're worth that help, Sean. You really are. But you must take that necessary second step yourself.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Mar 15, 2008
 I'm so Sorry
by: Francine

Sean, your mom's so-called partner, the old man, is a twisted, sadistic, wretched guy who always enjoyed the psychological, sexual and physical pain of others! You might want to try counselling and then call the police on that despicable, childhood-stealing pervert! My parents yell and hit me, too, but they haven't done more than that! Were you still with him now or were you with the different family when you were a kid? I'm so sorry about what happened to you and you need help, and I strongly urge you to try counselling cuz you are worth the help! And as for running away from home and living on the streets, I hope you are in the safe place, dear, cuz you are worth it, too!
Mar 15, 2008
 I am so sorry....
by: Anonymous

Sean, as a fellow human being reading your story, I want to tell you that I am so sorry you have suffered so much. If there was some way to lighten your load, I would so want to do it. I am a mother of two children, and I know the tender feelings a child has toward their parent, the inborn need of love and approval. To deny them that and offer instead the horrors that you have experienced is despicable.
I have been through a ton of pain myself and lived to tell about it. My scars are on the inside, but I see them sometimes anyway. I see them when I react in ways that are grossly overstated for the situation--and I realize that I am reacting--not the the person or situation at hand, but to past offences.
With time, counseling, and recovery work, I am learning to recognize the true reason for my hurt and respond more appropriately.
I often go to Celebrate Recovery meetings, you can look them up on line. They offer a safe place to expose your 'hurts, habits, and hang-ups' or just a safe place to go and listen to others who have been through a lot too.
You have taken the first step by telling your story--a courageous step--and I believe you will go the distance to overcome the residual emotions that are weighting you down, continuing the abuse in your mind and emotions. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Mar 16, 2008
 Wow.
by: Anonymous

I read this story and really felt for you.

I was sexually abused as a child aswell. By my brother.

You're an inspiration ... These people are what's wrong with the human race.

Bring the death sentence back to take care of disgusting people like him.


Good luck with everything you embark upon. xx
Mar 16, 2008
 Stay strong!
by: Tonya

You are taking good steps to begin healing yourself. These kind of situations are always hard and very hard to let go. Remember my dear friend, you did nothing wrong, it is not your fault. When life hands you lemons, make lemonade.
There is this book I read. It is called "a child called it" by David Pelzer. This book was so healing for me to read. most of the time you go through situations like this you always think you are alone and no one else has had similar things happen. It is not true. Everyone has a story everyone has a past they are embarrased by. You have to choose whether or not you will let this defeat you, you have chosen not to let it defeat you. good job! you are much stronger than you think. as for your siblings. Don;t hate them. maybe their father did the same to them and they are just not speaking or maybe they were afraid of their father and never went away from his word, in fear of getting hurt. you have to look at all angles and just be thankful that you have siblings and take it one day at a time. Just breathe and take it slow. you will heal and you will overcome this.
Mar 18, 2008
 are you ok
by: Anonymous

where are you now? people like that should not even be allowed to walk on this planet. i hope you are ok
Mar 18, 2008
 you can still do samething
by: ros nsw

hello sean
no one can understand what you have been going through as a child they truely can feel alot as most of us on this site have been through same sort of abuse, sean i say to you i never spoke about anything that happen to me and one day it got to much for my head to handle to i seen a councellor and wow it was hard at 1st but as you start to talk it just comes out and the good thing is they are not part of your life they can never go back and say anything to anyone, it kepted between then and yourself, with in doing this myself i have been ask to go for victem claim, and yes sean i am getting it through what i have been through, i know man that money wont ever bring back out life but what i do see is i can buy a home and start to get my life back on track and live to be as happy as i can, the memory dont leave you but the pain dose get easyer to deal with , think hard mate take good care of you angel blessing
Mar 18, 2008
 sorry
by: Anonymous

i hate all of them ... for you
Mar 19, 2008
 Im
by: Sean

Im ok now as such yes i moved away i live in a bnb now i have a 3 year old daughter who does not live with me but i see on occasions when im in the right mind i have a problem with drinking at the moment so i stay clear from her .

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