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Apr 30, 2010
 Sarah:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The person whose love and approval you need is YOURS. I had to learn this myself as a young adult. I had to learn that my mother was incapable of giving me what I needed; and therefore, I had to give it to myself. THAT'S when I truly began to heal. Perhaps counselling can help you to realize and understand this the way it did for me. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Apr 30, 2010
 In Times Like These
by: Darrell

Dear Sarah:

My heart cries out as you have relayed your story. I could feel your pain as I too shared in those most public humiliating moments. I couldn?t help go back in my mind as you talked about the yelling in the car. I can still see my mother. I always wondered how she could get her face so wrinkled as she yelled...LOL I know its not funny and the pain is so real, but I guess if we don?t look at it head on and see the humor in something then we are held captive by the very moment. I too received validation from siblings but the one who always stood in the gap has passed on. I wonder Sarah if those moments of pain such as we have seen within our lifetime have not been a strength to some degree. I can relate to so many moments when a memory caused me to stand up for someone I physically saw going through a similar act as I went through. Devastating as those moments have been, I try very hard to do whatever I can to lead a normal life. The countless beatings and hideous bashings with words and innuendos are real, I will never understand why it all happened and I never desire to hear of or witness anyone going through those horrible things again. I will take action as I have had to in the past. Your pain is real. I know; because mine is real. I want you to know that I will be thinking of you and praying for resolve. You have no reason to drop your head. You are somebody, and I believe that through your desire to get to the truth you are finding the healing you need. Abusers will rarely if ever admit that they were at fault, because after-all it is a fault that causes them to be the person they are. You are valuable, and you are worth more than what they would have you believe. Don?t allow their opinion of you destroy the wonderful exciting person you are within. Let the joy you spoke about at the friends house when you were acting out the MadTV scenes be the same joy that escalates your drive to succeed and grow away from these dark feelings and pain. I personally have to find Joy, happiness and love daily in all I do. Yes; our world can be harsh to people such as us, because the abuse in us shines through to abusers all around us. We just need to recognize this and be a step ahead of those who would try to derail our lives. I know you can rise above it Sarah and I to will be working out the same. Blessings!
From Darrell
May 01, 2010
 Even animals would never treat their young so sadistically
by: Anonymous

Sarah, what your brutes for parents did to you is very pathetic and ungrateful because they are really twisted, sick and cruel in their own ways of thinking. They certainly didn't deserve to have such beautiful children like you and your siblings, but most of all, you certainly didn't deserve to have such uncaring, uneducated, unloving, ignorant, animalistic, barbaric, sick, twisted, cruel, callous, ruthless, sadistic parents and they should've gone to prison for all those terrible crimes that they committed against you because you did nothing wrong; in fact, you were the child; they were the adults. They had all the power and they only misused it. Oh, and making jokes about you "being fat" really shows me how uneducated and ignorant your so-called mother really is because you are not fat; you are not rude; you are not stupid; you are not worhtless; you are none of the lies that she fed you; in fact, you are beautiful, smart, articulate and worthy of love, dignity and respect. I really hope that you will tell someone you really trust (other than just your brother and maternal relatives) and/or try counselling. Be brave, Sarah, and stay strong. I will pray for you.
May 01, 2010
 Always Believe in Yourself:
by: maurice

Sarah 4. I need to love and be loved: Sorting out the effects of the abuse you were put through will take time: But begin NOW Today. Darlene has given your loving, encouraeing woman's heart felt love in empatising with you where she hears another woman heart in the telling of your story. You are loved by her and indeed by all her Website family of visitors: In her love and care for each of her visitors she helps us all to empatise with each others pain and effects of abuse. She also has created a safe home, place, for each of us to express that love and the care genuinely: So Sarah 4. Always believe in yourself, I will, I can, I must, because I am WORTH it. Stand in front of Your Mirror and say all the positive things to discribe who you really are. I am special, I am unique, I am the beautiful and loving me looking back at me. From Today.... think positive....act positive....be positive in all you do and say about yourself. Don't do yourself down anymore, build up your own self esteem: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body. Get out and about with your friends and like-minded people being active and alive in sporting and cultural activities. I believe this to be an empowering way to forget oneself from dwelling on the misery that abuse creates in one's life: Being with like-minded people ever so naturally allows us to be true to ourselves in such a good and wholesome ways: Please love YOURSELF hug and cuddle that LOVE into you and allow your trusted and true friends to do likewise. You'll be fine Sarah4. but you'll have to get off your bottom to be fine: Do what Darlene suggests to you in her comment:

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