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Mar 24, 2011
 Sandra:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Something you wrote that really jumped out at me: "Sometimes he tried to rape me, but I never let it go that far, I think..." This implies that somehow you were the one driving the abuse, or that you had options, or even worse, that you blame yourself. You didn't "let" anything go anywhere. This man sexually assaulted you. He took advantage of your vulnerabilities and used you for his sexual gratification. It wasn't your fault. It will never be your fault. Ever. Fault is on HIS shoulders because he chose to offend. Please be open and honest with your father about how you are feeling. You need help with all of this. Tell your father you need to see a counseling to help you process all of this. You didn't deserve to be abused by that poor excuse of a man, and you certainly didn't deserve to be mistreated and abused by your mother. You deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 24, 2011
 Such uncontrolled sadism
by: Anonymous

Sandra, you were given a raw crappy deal because your mom, her boyfriend and your stepdad are so twisted and messed up in their own ways of thinking that they don't even know how to take care of themselves, never mind be parents to you. You deserved so much better than what those terrible, ignorant monsters did to you; they certainly didn't deserve you in their lives. Oh, and you are not to blame for their sadistic, messed up behavior; they are to blame because they chose to use and abuse you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and they misused it over you. Oh, and they're wrong. You are not unlovable; you are lovable (yes, your dad loves you and wants only the best for you), so don't believe any of those lies that they were spewing. Mothers who abuse their own children are one of the real abusers. Oh, and I hope that you are in a safe place now and that your dad is with you now because he is here to support you, just try talking to him about what those poisonous excuses for human beings did to you. I also hope that you will try counselling.

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