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Jan 12, 2008
 Abandoned
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Ros, your father should have protected you from your criminally abusive mother. The fact that he was being abused himself by her was no excuse. He was an adult; you were the child. His job as your father was to make sure you were kept safe from harm. He not only abandoned you emotionally, he physically abandoned you when he left you with a monster for a mother. He couldn't defend himself against her, but he expected you to defend yourself, you, a defenseless child? Not only that, the fact that you still see that the abuse he suffered at the hands of his wife was because he was trying to protect you only served to leave you feeling responsible. For that you've harboured guilt, Ros, guilt that isn't yours to harbour. What your father was dealing with was not your fault. He should have manned up; he took the coward's way out when he left you alone to deal with a woman he himself couldn't stop from being physically abusive. You had a birthright to be safe from harm, Ros. BOTH of your parents are responsible for what you were made to suffer through.

As for the rest of your family calling you a liar rather than admitting that you were abusively picked on and they weren't, good riddance to them. You don't need people like that in your life, even if they are family. Living a healthy life sometimes means drawing a line in the sand. Congratulations for drawing that line, Ros. It shows that you are getting stronger and are on the road to healing and recovery.

And Ros, I'm delighted that my site is helping you.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Jan 14, 2008
 EXTRORDINARY WOMAN
by: Anonymous

hi Ros, first of all I would really like you to understand how valuable of a person you are, do you know how many teenage girls give birth to babies and kill them, or they are born hooked on drugs, or relive the life you did? but your choice was one that was amazing, making it more difficult in the situation you were. But you decided your baby was first before anything. I just want to thank you for that because that is 1 less baby that gets put in that situation. I dont know you but it makes me very angry when I read about these things. as I type this right know someone is going through the very same experience.
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Jan 17, 2008
 you deserve better
by: 2222Anonymous2222

that is soooooo mean what happened to you! You have lived a poor life and you deserved a better one. my mum might shout at me but i hope she will never go that far!? x x x
Jan 19, 2008
 thank you all for your coment (moved by Darlene Barriere - Webmaster)
by: ros

hello and i would like to thank all that has lefted a comment it truely has helped me get through same rough patches
im now 43 and as peolpe would say it happen years ago , well im not able to heal the broken soul all in one it take years i locked it away for years now im faceing my life peolpe tell me i should face my mother at his age , i say im unable to as i still am fearfull of her very much , im very use to people not believeing me and calling me a lier , in my soul body spirit and heart i know what happen and it dosent matter who believes who any more its a matter of knowing it was wrong in your own heart what my mother did to me , my only thing i get so angry with life is im trying so hard to heal and i have seeked law for my abuse for them to tell me that i havent got enough prove that it happen my words were HOW TO YOU PROVE ABUSE BEHIND CLOSE DOORS the answer is not there its hard to prove it thats live in its own when i dont have my twins or father to standed for me and say anything im unable to prove my abuse , so it makes me angry , im not out for the money im here to show my mother that she can not longer abuse me , still at 43 she rings when she bord and abuse me over the phone or my young daughter at 13 its not right i know that and ever time my phone number is changed she is able to get it, just say she has connection in that area,
so right now im at a low point of my life has this new of how do i prove my abuse is hanging over my ,, yes im 43 but i still deserve a life and have been told by doctor's that i dont have but life to live , they say i will be luck to see a good 10 year out ,,, to me thats unfear and there is nothing i can do but live life untill i pass away , my children were with me at the doctor so they all know , my grandchildren will all only be young that what upsets me, im postive usely and very strong in my own life i have had to be ,yes to all im very disable now with kyphosis crush vertabra to my spine im deaf and many more what will shorten my life is kyphosis as what it dose as my back curves more im cutting of the air to my lungs heart and body my ribs will close in and i wont be able to breath again any way , what im trying to say is my MOTHER took a good part of my life away through her abuse not only am i deaf but have to live with peolpe helping me every day i dont have my inderpendes any more as well , the doctor;s told me that i have a very old body for a young woman im over the oh SHIT and shock of it all as i relyes that dosent matter how long you have it how you live for what i have lefted and be dam will i let any abuser take the rest of what i have , so this is how i have dealt with it i have wrote all that happen to me and it will be read out on my passing away day for every one to know i will lay to rest with the trueth inside of me thank you all for your surport , i little every day im getting stronger ,ros
Jan 21, 2008
 U GO GURL!!!
by: hiya!

Ros i just want u 2 know that u are a are a very brave women! You had to endure all those aweful things from your mother, and u put up a fight. Still afterwards you kept on going with your life and u know what that takes real courage! And you live life 2 its fullest, and you're not giving up your still going on with ur life. Wow! U sure are one strong women! Keep up the good work... wait wrong work i meant great work, and u go gurl!!!
Mar 03, 2008
 so sorry
by: bell

your story is an inspiration to those who are deeply and emotionally abuse, my heart and faith is with you and a little prayer for you to get better as each day passes and people like your mother don't deserve anything, how can god create these people?
May 20, 2009
 To Anonymous who posted May 20, 2009:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I read, but deleted your post, Anonymous, since the purpose of these comments is not to lambaste any who write here (including me), but rather, to provide validation, encouragement and support for the person who wrote the story, commentary or article. In this case, to Ros.

Given your angry and accusatory comments to me, I gather you haven't read all that many stories and my replies on this site, because if you had, you would find that I have often stated that a mother failed her children for not stepping up.

If you would like to offer Ros (or any other visitor) a supportive comment, I would be happy to post it live on my site; otherwise, inappropriate or disrespectful comments will be deleted.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Dec 02, 2010
 sign language music
by: My Two Cents

I noticed your desire for music and the fact you are a signer. So you know several sign language interpreters and students post videos of music they have interpreted into ASL (american sign language) on YouTube. The most "famous" signer is allyballybabe, a graduate of Baylor University in Texas, USA. She interprets a lot of Taylor Swift music. Check her out and then search YT for sign music. There are a lot of people posting. Enjoy!

Be well.

My Two Cents.

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