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Apr 21, 2011
 Rissa:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Trying to erase the memories will only serve to keep them alive in your mind. It's the burying of them that causes the haunting because they so desperately need to get out. When we deal with the emotions attached to these memories, really deal with them, only then will the memories let us go. That doesn't mean we "forget". It means they no longer control who and what we are. But it's the emotions attached to them that so many survivors desperately want to avoid. The fact is, you are not the terrible things this man called you. HE was the one with all the control and power. HE was the one who raped you. HE was the one who took advantage of your vulnerabilities. This is ALL on him, Rissa, not you. The blame falls squarely on HIS shoulders. The sooner you believe it with all your heart, the better it will be for your healing and recovery. This wasn't about you; it was about a pedophile getting sexual gratification from a little girl who had no way to protect herself. So don't ever lay the blame or guilt on yourself. I do hope you'll talk to someone about what you're going through. You can't deal with this alone. Talk to your mother. Tell her you need help. And if that isn't possible, talk to a school counsellor. Just don't keep this to yourself any longer. You deserve so much more than that in your life. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Apr 22, 2011
 Get Help: NOW: Get your life together: Become strong:
by: maurice

At 13 years of age many girls your age become strong because like you they know that anything happened to them which was not right especially in the area of their sexuality: You are one brave girl to find Darlene's site: It will benefit you greatly: Darlene as is her care and concern for each of her visitors has put alot of heart and thought into the comment she wrote: You are a big girl now starting a very special stage in your growing up years of your personal growth in puberty: Learn about this very natural and real part of your bodies growing out of love for yourself and your body: Already the most beautiful parts of your body have been abused, molested, touched in the wrong way by beasts who were just out for their own gratification and as Darlene tells a paedophille who preys on little girls: Rissa: you are one very special and intelligent girl at 13 years: Great you had the courage to cry for help here on Darlene's site: You'll be fine: Don't be afraid talk what you wrote here with your Mam if you think she will love and cherish you and get you counselling: If you think otherwise than please share it with a caring, loving, trusting teacher (female) who will listen in total confidence and advice accordingly: Hi Rissa: I am certain you have a friend or two that knows your secret who are girls your own age: Now there is support for you: be safe: stay safe: stay in education: (important) with your two friends then begin having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Rissa now is a great time in your life to come fully alive enjoying yourself: Take part with other girls your own age in team sport my emphasis on team sports because I know the benefit this has been for the hundreds I encouraged and helped to be part of teams in the last 35 years: There is safety in numbers: Now whether it is a dancing group, football, hockey, netball, athletic's you'll make real, natural and good friends for life with loads of aquaintances who will make you happy and smile: Girls your own age group watch out for each other when it comes to build friendships with boys etc: Beccause they are nearly always with boy's each other know from school/college. Now that you know it was not your fault those beasts were wrong and you are not to blame. Always love and respect yourself and your very own beautiful body: Be gentle and kind to yourself Rissa: You'll be fine: get real help NOW the help thta Darlene adviced you you need right NOW; She spoke from her heart, I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I A WORTH IT: RISSA LET THIS BE YOUR NEW MOTTO: Dream your dreams and reach for the sky:
Apr 27, 2011
 i undrstand
by: Cassie

I understand where you are coming from on alot i dont inderstand how you could pull yourself through all of that but im 17 years old and i still cut to this day feeling worthless

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