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Mar 19, 2014
 Rachelle:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Through you, your boyfriend A--- (initial & dashes used to protect privacy) is beginning to recognize that what he endured was abuse. And that what his father did to him was not his fault. These are important lessons to learn for him, because to believe otherwise is to believe that he was not and is not worthy of being treated well. What he believed before was completely shame-based. Based on the lie that he wasn't enough and would never be enough.

Some of the most kind-hearted people come from the worst of adversity. This is true of A---. He was so much stronger than the person who was trying to hurt him. But what can also happen with survivors of abuse is that they don't have a sense of boundaries. Sometimes their kindness comes from a place of looking for acceptance. I mention these, not to darken a lovely spirit, but rather, to share of my personal experience. As A--- walks his healing path, with you as his support, he will need to learn boundaries and self-acceptance. The latter can be the most difficult because of all the negative messages he received as a child. But it can be done. And it seems A--- is well on his way to seeing what is true about himself: That he is worthy of being treated with dignity and respect and love. Thank you for sharing A---'s story with my visitors and me. I send you both love, light and healing energy, Rachelle.

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Darlene Barriere
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