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Jun 18, 2011
 To No Shame:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I agree we all must do what is best for us. But I also know that sometimes what we think is best for us isn't. Your father is still drinking and has tried to take his life. If you have minor children, they are at risk if they have any exposure to him. This constant drama, coupled with what happened to you and your siblings as children, is taking it's toll on you. Please consider some form of counselling in order to help you deal with your trust issues and your panic attacks. You didn't deserve to be mistreated. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jun 19, 2011
 Honesty and the truth will set you free:
by: maurice

Great you had the courage to search for and find this safe place: Safe haven: Safe home: Safe Family of friends with the mothering figure of Darlene's caring and professional stewardship:
You be honest with yourself in admitting you need counselling help to put all the domestic violence against your Mom: Brother and Yourself at the head of an out of control drunken Father: An out an out abuser of you all: Physiaclly, mentally were his instruments of control: I still can never understand why a woman (A Mother) would allow the father (her husband) do such vilence to herself and her children: I know of many such great mothers like yours: A true mother with a true mothers nature wanting to love and cherish her children and do all that was best for them: Great People and you are blessed with the best: Darlene's comment is from her woman's heart to your womans heart: NOW heed her loving, supporting, affirming words: She has spoken the truth so you be true to yourself and your nearest and dearest loved one's keep them safe from your still drunken and sicko of a Father: A leopard never changes it's spots: Darlene has warned you: Heed her: Get some form of counselling you'll be all the better for it: Be gentle and kind on yourself don't judge yourself too harshly because all that happened you as a child/adolecent was NEVER (ever) your fault; You sure took alot of physical absue so be gentle and kind to that body of yourse: soothe/massage it with scented oils and creams giving it and yourself the feel good touch: You deserve the best after all you have painfully kept in all these years: Your Mother is your rock: your blessing stay close and respect her love of you and all her children: Live well: laugh often; Love much: have a healthy mind in a heathy body: have true and real friends (women) because then you will be a support to each other in sharing all the girlie stuff with each other: A true friend is a precious golden nugget:
Jun 24, 2011
 Thank you
by: No Shame

Hi Guys

Thanks for your kind words and advice. In relation to Maurice you dont understand why a mother would marry men like that and stand back whilst her children are being abused...I never understood it either to be honest. My mam tried to protect us she really did. She took the brunt of it most of the time. My dad manipulated her in such a way that she didnt know any better. Thankfully she does now.

I have tried councelling and I'll be honest I didnt like it. When I have my bad days I talk to Joe about them. I know people think its strange that I am still in touch with dad, but I feel I need to be. Alcholism is a disease beit one that is self inflicted but I love him he is my dad. My children are not exposed to him at any time and I wont allow them to be. I do not discuss my father around them. I doubt he will be around long enough to ever be apart of their lives but that is his choice and my children are my priority they come first.

Thank you for your kind words though. This site is truely amazing. xx
Jun 30, 2011
 YOU
by: Anna

are amazing :*)
Jul 01, 2011
 be brave: Be Strong: Love your beautiful Self
by: maurice

Thank You: I mean it when I say love your beautiful self: Don't give up on counselling: It is hard but with you positive forgiving honesty in accepting and understanding A man: (yes your Father) who abused you horifically Counselling will give you greater strength to put it all in perspective: You have great and wonderful people close to you especially your children: Live the now time to the full with them keeping them safe by loving them and cherishing them because you know now that is how you should have been loved as a child: Thank you for acknowledgeing the mystery I have around women who stay with violent men: Your Mom is one remarkable woman a good mother Thank you

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