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Dec 26, 2012
 Nicole:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You have EVERY reason to go on. What is so common among abuse survivors is being so focused on the negative that one can't see the positive in one's life. I see PLENTY of positives in your life, though you may still be too emotionally raw to see them at this time. Positive #1: you gave birth to a son. A son, that through just being was able to bring to the surface so many of the repressed memories you had. This is positive #2, because that says that your mind & body can now handle the pain of those buried emotions. Positive #3: losing your loved one to your self-admitted destructive behaviours has forced you to see those behaviours for what they are. Only through acknowledgement for these behaviours can true change come about, because only when you admit them can you change them. Positive #4: you say you're so tired...that tiredness comes from living a life of self-destruction, so when you admit that self-destruction AND feel that tiredness, you're actually more than ever willing to look at giving them up. Positive #5: you wrote your story here, to be heard & to begin that healing process. Positive #6: you feel a sense of relief having posted your story here. You ARE ready to walk a path of healing & recovery, Nicole. You've already lived the worst of it and SURVIVED it! The rest are your thoughts. Only your thoughts. Please seek out some form of therapy or counselling in order to help you deal with the effects of all that you endured. You didn't deserve to be abused. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. If counselling is not in the cards, read everything you can about healing from sexual abuse. Start with the library. Just make a commitment to your healing. I send you love, light and healing energy, Nicole. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Dec 27, 2012
 Nicole,
by: AnonymousT

Loving ourself is the first step to being loved. Easier said than done, right? You can do it! This is a long process, this healing, but you CAN DO IT.

One of the things I learned in therapy was to take care of me. If my inner child felt like coloring, we colored. I told ehr she did a good job too! If I wanted to cuddle with something soft, I did. And I didn't feel weird about it. I treated ME like I might have treated my children, with love and care and respect.

Treat yourself with love care & respect. Pretend you're someone else for a minute & think, "What could I do for her today?"

You can do this.

T
Dec 27, 2012
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by: Anonymous

From Darlene - Webmaster: Nicole, and my other visitors to this thread, I've deleted 4 separate comments from this particular commenter who leaves posts that are judgmental and wholly inappropriate. I cannot block her, but I'll continue to delete her comments before they ever go live on the site.

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