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Nov 17, 2010
 Nicholas:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You just DO! You just TELL your father. No more secrets. No more trying to protect him. And if he doesn't believe you, then he's not the father you thought he was/is. It is highly likely that "Bob" has molested many other children. And though you can't do anything about what he did to you, you can expose him for what he really is and possibly protect other children in the process. Besides, it's time you think about YOURSELF, not your father or anyone else in your life. You need YOU right now. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. And congratulations on 7 months clean!

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Darlene Barriere
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author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Nov 17, 2010
 Hardest part of my life
by: Anonymous

From Darlene - Webmaster: Anonymous, this thread is for comments directly to Nicholas. In order to be respectful to Nicholas, I've removed your post and will consider posting it through my child abuse stories page, in the order in which it was received. At this point, I have more than 30 stories in queue, so it will take some time. Also, I do not answer questions for visitors; I offer supportive and encouraging comments when I can.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Nov 18, 2010
 do tell
by: Tim L.

I'm so sorry that you had to spend so many years lost and getting high because of this; that you had to lose your mother and your childhood in one stroke. You were taken advantage of in the worst possible way. You need to focus on you and what can make you free and happy, not protecting your father or making things right with him; if he believes you and understands the magnitude of what happened and his role in it, then that will be his burden, not yours. You should never have to see the lowlife who raped you again; and he shouldn't have the ability by lingering around to send your life back into the turmoil of drugs.

Darlene is right; just tell your father, but you might want to tell the police first. It seems clear that this wasn't a one time thing for your abuser--and the fact that he apparently has regular possession of child pornography (perhaps some of it including you) means that he can be put away/stopped without you having to go to great pains to prove what he did to you in court. Don't let him go free, by all means, and try to get a counselor to help you with this.
Nov 21, 2010
 untitled
by: Anonymous

ummm i fell realll y bad 4 u!!!! whoever tht is is sick!!! u were only five!! and now ur like scarred 4 life....
Nov 22, 2010
 Stop Him: You must: Tell on Him:
by: maurice

I am certain your father is a reasonable thinking man: a caring father wanting what is best for you his son: Nicholas, stop paining yourself, you are on brave young thinking adult to tell your story on Darlene's site: It is your cry for real help and advice: She has given it to you in her re-affirming, caring, loving concened comment: She wants you to start living your life NOW: make your Motto: I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: because I am WORTH it: That pedophille ruined your innocent maturing childhood: He abused you: He is no freind of your Father's especially after all he did to you: You can be helped Nicholas: You go for counselling as Darlene encourages you to do: You'll be fine: You have good will power to do only what is the best for you NOW: Let go of those awful horrible memories of rape and sexual abuse by that beast: Nicholas, stay in education: Tell your father on that beast: Your father would not want a friend like that: Especially if the possibility is there that he molested other young children and hurt them like he hurted you: You sure can safeguard other children from this beast of a man: Don't be afraid: You are an intelligent young Man now so be the winner over that beast: Don't let him ruin your living of your life to the full: Change your whole way of living: Get out and about having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Oh yes, Nicholas you can: Take part with your fellow students and friends in team sports and cultural activities: You are a leader in your own right wirh your own gifts and tallents: you'll make real natural life long friends among your team mates: be gentle and kind on yourself and let go of those awful memories: Hi Nicholas counselling will help and put everything in perspective for you: Love yourself: Tell your Father: tell the authorities on this sicko of a phidophille: your father deserves better friends than him: Don't be afraid you have good caring people around you now:
Nov 25, 2010
 after
by: Nicholas

Thank you everyone for your kind words and comments.
I feel like I should tell you I finally brought up the courage and told my Dad, he was shocked but did believe me and has been really supportive. I even went to the police and when they searched Bob's house they found child porn so he will hopefully rot in jail where he deserves. I start counseling tomorrow too so while I doubt I'll ever be normal, maybe it will help me deal with everything.
Nov 30, 2010
 what great news to wake up to:
by: maurice

Brilliant: fantastic: good on you Nicholas: you truly gave me one huge uplift this day: be brave: be strong: be persevering NOW: what a site: Thanks Darlene: Nicholas you make me ever so happy: Always believe in yourself: Hi as and from TODAY live well: laugh alot: LOVE much: Live your life to the full: You deserve the best now give it to yourself: My Prayers are with you:
Dec 02, 2010
 We all know its hard to tell.
by: Dan1

i first off want to say Good job in staying 7 months drug free.i understand why u would turn to drugs.It takes u away from reality but only for a short moment then it brings u back to earth.I'm very sorry for what Sik ass BOb did to.You were so helpless.What pissed me off even more was what he said to you at your mothers funeral.What a monster!I too was abused.Maybe not as bad as you were but it was enough to not trust anybody around the children of my family and friends.i was molested in a Sacred place,my own church.I have wrote it on this site if u ever want to read it.I wrote it by "The boy".I too have not reported this man,and like u,i always ask myself the question of how many children he could of abused before and after me.i have 2 more stories that are labeled as "Dan1"I never quite thought about suicide while going thru what i went through.i only developed a very bad temper through out my late teens.Dude suicide is never the answer.You dont want to leave your father alone.If u die,how will your dad find out what bob did to u?Dont let'em win.stay with your dad.i understand why u would blame him for losing your childhood.But he has no idea.He trusted Bob.Your dad didnt know that side of him.Please be strong Nicholas.Tell your dad when you're ready.i'll always be by your side.

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