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Nov 25, 2009
 You wrote exactly the right amount...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It wasn't long at all. I'm really glad it helped you to write it out. But don't stop there. Consider talking to a counsellor in order to help you through the trust issues you still carry as residual from not being helped as a little girl. You deserve that kind of help. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Nov 25, 2009
 why?
by: shayla

I did the same thing and when I finally came out to my mom and told her about two of the times I was raped and one time a guy had tried forcing me to have sex with him which was not even a month ago. I was 18 and six months pregnant and he kept kissing my stomach saying it was ok he loved me when I have no idea who he is. My mom said I couldnt have been raped because I didnt act like a rape victim. I wasnt scared to be around guys or anything just after the first time I became really permiscuous, I didnt think I was good enough for someone to want to be with me I let anyone do whatever to me I would just lay there. It took awhile after I got pregnant before I finally decided I had enough an I deserved to be with someone. I never reported any of the times I was raped, molested, and forced to do things because I gave it to them. The last time it happend was the first time I was actually not going to let it happen again and fought back. Even the times where guys have laced my drink and taken advantage of me while I was passed out. It was still my fault because I put myself in that position asked for it. But no more.

From Darlene: Shayla, I cannot be strong enough in saying you did NOT ask for it! It is NEVER EVER EVER the victim's fault. Please get that out of your mind. You can do things to help protect yourself, but don't you ever blame yourself for someone else's vile actions against you.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Nov 25, 2009
 Original Poster
by: Anonymous

To this day, I can't be around a man who has alcohol on his breath as the memories of that night in the park come flying back to me. I just get so scared. I'm so glad my husband only got drunk once in our marriage and hasn't drank again since.
Nov 26, 2009
 anything that is forced ain't anywhere near love
by: maurice

NBCD Darlene sure is understanding in her comment read it carefully please fo your own sake search out a counsellor. bring with you your written story in total confidentiality the counsellor will listen, value, respect and allow you to grow out of all you went through at the hands of uncaring males. You be in chrarge of your own destiny in life. Love and respect your body. the more you do that then you will help another to love and rspect it too. You were a great help to Shayla too you got her telling her story while she emphatised with you and yes Darlene valued her story by making a comment to her. This site is well stewarded by a loving caring woman. professionally. we are blessed to know that.
Jan 01, 2010
 Drugs are no excuse
by: BMW Princess

Drugs are no excuse. That guy had somthing very wrong in his head. And even if you have a crush on someone you can't force them into sex. It's still rape even if you have a crush on the person.

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