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Feb 26, 2013
 To Name Undisclosed:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Some would call what happened to you abuse. Legally, it all depends on ages, stages, circumstances, and where you live. You're reaching for a label that even if you could with absolute certainty use, wouldn't give you what you're really looking for; and that's to live pain-free, and to possibly never have to even remember any of what happened. Change what you think, you'll automatically change how you feel which will automatically change how you act. You have nothing to be ashamed of. You're judging something that happened when you were too young to know, too vulnerable to understand, and too afraid to do anything about it. You were also too caught up in the natural feelings of affection to appropriately deal with what you likely perceived as rejection when he put an end to it. Understand that in all probability, the other boy was himself sexually abused by someone, and he was acting out what was being done to him. Understand that it is perfectly natural for a young male to have an erection and even reach an orgasm when they are scared, anxious or nervous. Truth is, sexual stimulation feels good. There is no shame in that. Please seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to help you put perspective on what you endured, and to help you release the guilt that isn't yours to carry. You deserve that kind of help. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 27, 2013
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by: AnonymousT

As an outsider looking in it sounds as if he was displacing his pain...onto you. He was abused, he abused you. He was young, sure, and that makes it all the more confusing because it's hard to fault a child. I suppose understanding WHY someone abuses sometimes helps. It doesn't excuse it..it just explains it.

If you're attracted to women, but tend to get confused when the abuse memories surface...I DO suggest a therapist to help you work through your thoughts & feelings. Sounds silly, but it works. Look for one that specializes in childhood abuse. Also some online support groups are good, the more private the better as they uphold certain standards.

Abuse is shaming. Abuse CAN feel good & our bodies betray us, that's where the shame can move in. Be true to you, think things out and weigh how you feel about things. Write it down, let it flow.

T

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