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May 16, 2009
 Part 1: Trust issues...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm with you...it's deeply disturbing that this woman is allowed to continue operating her daycare after what she did to you. And what an insult—a slap in the face—that she had the audacity to sue your parents for non-payment when they withdrew you from her care because she inflicted abuse; it's nothing short of an outrage!

You must understand first and foremost that none of what happened was your fault. NONE OF IT. Fault lies with her. Nothing you could have done would or could warrant the treatment—mistreatment—she chose to inflict on you.

Just because she was a church-going woman does not make her immune to criminal acts. Criminals come from all persuasions. And just for the record, what she did WAS criminal, whether or not she went to court for the acts she committed, whether or not she was convicted of any criminal wrong-doing. Not all guilty people are convicted in court. Not all guilty people serve time for their crimes, even if they are convicted. The fact that she was from your church does not make her impervious to lying about what was going on in her daycare. Most people lie because they are afraid of what will happen if they tell the truth. She lied in order to protect herself from prosecution because she knew what she was doing was wrong.

And of course you would have trust issues; that woman destroyed your ability to trust, and then what happened with the court reinforced your inability to trust. But that can be turned around. You CAN learn to trust again. Your depression and low self-esteem is understandable. But that too can be turned around. The fact is, you ARE worthy of love. You are worthy of dignity and respect. You ARE special. Keep telling yourself that, because it's true.

You need some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of what that daycare woman did to you.

See Part 2: You need help... below.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
May 16, 2009
 Part 2: You need help...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

If you are still a minor, talk to your parents about what you are feeling. Be honest with them. Tell them that you are having difficulty and that you are depressed. Tell them you need help. They're your parents; it's their responsibility to ensure you get what you need. And if you can't talk to your parents, then talk to a school counsellor or consider contacting Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you had to deal with and the emotions you are now experiencing as a result. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. Perhaps they too can offer some options for you.

If you are an adult, then please consider a professional counsellor, someone who can help you deal with your trust and self-esteem issues. You don't have to suffer alone. There are people out there who want to help. Depression is not something you have to live with.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. Doing so may well prevent another child from suffering the same fate you suffered. Knowing what you now know, sharing you story here, you've now become an advocate of sorts for children; that is a very powerful thing. It means there can be purpose in what you endured. And when you feel purposeful, you build self-esteem. And when you build self-esteem, you build up your ability to deal with the awful stuff in your life. You've started that process by sharing here on this site. Take the next step...talk with someone who can help you. Don't suffer alone.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Aug 06, 2009
 report her
by: Anonymous

She sounds like a bad person.
If she works for an organized babysitting agency try reporting her. People like that don't often stop on their own. Keep fighting. No child needs to go through that.

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