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Feb 26, 2010
 Mickey:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. This WILL affect you at some point. It already has since you are blaming yourself and you feel guilt and shame for something that is NOT your fault and will NEVER be your fault. You may not be exhibiting any signs right now, but as you move through life and its various stages, you will likely have to deal with a load of repercussions. Not to tell someone is doing you a disservice, but it is also pre-supposing that your brother only molested you; that is HIGHLY unlikely, as molesters don't change their ways unless and until someone stops them.

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Feb 26, 2010
 There's Hope!
by: Boyfriend of Molested

Mickey,

Great job on sharing your story and expressing your feelings. I believe you and I share a very similar outcome (thus far) of being molested. I never have felt much negatively from my experiences compared to most others. My girlfriend, however, has not had such 'luck' as us. She has been impacted very negatively and has many disorders but leads an outwardly normal life. I chose my comment name to let you know that you will one day have a loving, supportive boyfriend that you trust enough to tell. If he is a great guy, he will be understanding and in no way (or very minorly) will this affect your relationship, mentally or physically. Please don't feel you have to keep this a secret. Darlene's advice is right on, and the sooner you take it, the sooner you begin to heal. May God bless you during this process! All the best...:-)
Mar 01, 2010
 IM SO SORRY
by: Echo

i am so sorry you had to go thru what yu did and that should have never happened to yu i have never had that done to me so i cant say how yu feel but i can say is i kno the fellin of being tottally helpless against whats going on im 16 and my mom would abuse me
Mar 02, 2010
 YOU ARE VERY BRAVE
by: Anonymous

I am so glad that you wrote about this problem. I know that it was hard, but you were right to do it because feeling alone is part of the problem.

It was my father who molested me. I never wanted him to be hurt, only to stop. I loved him, too.

Darlene is right about getting help. The shame that you feel is a natural consequence of what happened, but in no way was it your fault.

Get in touch with Social Services and find an incest therapy group. You will find out that you are not alone and have people to support you.

They say that people who do what was done to you keep on doing it. When you feel stronger, at the very least, confront your brothers to say that what they did was wrong. You might prevent their daughters from going through the same thing.
Mar 02, 2010
 Tears in my eyes=too close to home
by: Anonymous

Mickey: Your story made me cry.I don't cry..I just plain don't. Want to shut out all emotion because to feel is to hurt. Your story made me 'face' more of what I am trying now at my older age to work out. After years of pretending and shutting down..I can't anymore. God in His mercy is making it all come up to the surface. It is so painful..but necessary. For years I suffered with Fibrmyalgia pain..insomnia..still am. I think there is a connection to this disease and my encased anger and shame. Please..you are not alone..but do speak out. I know it will be hard. My cousin was/is a great guy. Loved admired in our family. I never see him only at family reunions..we talk as if nothing ever happened. I have forgiven..but can't forget. What do I do with this unresolved pain..only God can help me through it. I pray you get the help you need before you suffer with the pent up secrets in your body. I read somewhere recently that muscles retain the memory of what happens to us at the very age it happened. So i've been stuck at 6 yrs.old...then at 10, again at 19..I have all these places to go and release the pain to Jesus. I pray you and I both get there!

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