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Jan 07, 2010
 Michelle:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You have NOTHING to feel shame for. You are putting adult values of what you believed you needed to do as a child. Don't ever hold yourself responsible. Please consider entering into some form of counselling in order to help you through this "shame and hurt and misplaced trust." You certainly deserve that kind of help. When it started isn't nearly as important as getting help for yourself today. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jan 08, 2010
 you are right to tell your daughter that.
by: Dan1

You are a good parent michelle for always telling your daughter to tell you if any one ever hurted her. My innocence was taken away from me when I was a child too, and after it happend I had no one to turn to. Not even my parents.I don't trust adults. Ever since that happend to me I convinced myself that all adults ( mostly men) were rapist. I'm 20 years old now, and its sad to say that I still think the same way about people. I find it hard somtimes to be able to trust my peers in school as well. I can't wait until I have kids. Because I know that I'm going to be a good dad. And you are not a coward.
Jan 08, 2010
 I am beautiful: I am Special. I'm going to love myself better for 2010
by: maurice

Michelle F. begin the NEW YEAR well reading Darlene's words of LOVE and encouragement to you. She has a woman's heart for all of her visitors individually and that means for you. Her words are empowering only if you get off your bottom and act on them with a little help from the friend or too that you have in your life. I am almost certain you have such a friend or two because it is a child/teenager preogative to to tell our little secrets to. I did when I was a child every time I got spanked me and my friend would go secretly for a walk and say how it hurt and how I felt standing there preparing for it etc. we consoled each other just by talking about it. we still are the best of friends. So Michelle don't dwell so much when, how it happened just seek out a counsellor/therapist and begin talking as you have written it to Darlene and her visitors. I believe it is a huge step each of her many visitors take when they find her site because she with her words of encouragement move them on to seeking help for themselves. She realizes each one has to lift himself/herself off their bottoms and god and get that help. She had to do it herself she has done it brilliantly she truly can and does give words of support to each one of us who visit her site. Sure even setting up her site was visionary/imagineary enough. You did well Darlene. Michelle F at the beginning of this NEW YEAR if you bother your own bottom enough and get off it and do as Darlene suggests then 2010 will be the best of years for you. a NEW DECADE so ten years down the road you'll thank yourself for getting off your bottom and loving yourself to get the help Darlene suggests. I can, I will< I must, because I'm wroth it. Begin having a healthy mind in a healthy body, get going at being active and alive with sporting or cultural groups in your area. The benefit to you MIcheslle F will work wonders for you. mixing naturally with likeminded people as yourself is surely empowering. You'll see yourself and your body in a totally different and more healthy natural way. Look in that mirror and think positive thought about yourself building up your SELF ESTEEM I am instead of say I'm NOT.I have instead I don't like this about my self. Hi Michelle I am not requesting you to do anything silly or daft. THINK ABOUT IT. I can, I will, I must because I'm worth it. Just for me. ''wow'' what a way to begin my new year
Feb 19, 2010
 abuse
by: Anonymous

trust me iknow how it is too i have been abused its not fun at all.
Feb 26, 2010
 would you like to talk
by: michelle f

it will make you feel better to tell.
Mar 09, 2010
 I know exactly how you feel
by: Anonymous

Almost the same exact thing happened to me, the only difference is it was my mom that would beat me as a baby and my dad who left her. It is good to tell someone, since i've talked to a friend 6 years ago things have gone alot better. I just make something of myself to prove that he didn't ruin me, i'm 20 and been in the Air Force for 2 years now.
Mar 10, 2010
 i am really sorry:,,(
by: Anonymous

i really am sorry about what happen to you when you were little i give you all my wishes its better to keep your daughter away from men like that
Mar 11, 2010
 i am glad you have told
by: Anonymous

I am sorry for what happened to you to.I believe that god had a reason for it. for he will not let his plans be changed by any one maybe it was so we all could help each other do you have any relationship with your mother?I have just started to talk to my daughter again I m going to be a grandma any day a little girl i pray she will keep guys away from her to
Mar 12, 2010
 Well, Are you being fair to yourself.
by: Maurice

Michelle F. with all the caring comments to your tradgig and sad story of abuse I hope you've had the courage to get help/counselling and moved out and about naturally each day you wake up. being active and alive with likeminded people who keep you on your toes Having a Healthy Mind in a Healthy Body. I surely hope you are hugging and cuddling that wonderful and beautiful body of yours Micjelle F. Your Mirror Image is so important, Please Michell F.. Do Try, in my last comment I told you get off that bottom of yours. ''Well'' HAVE YOU BEING DOING IT. ? nOT FOR ME OR MY BENEFIT BUT JUST FOR YOURS BECAUSE YOU ARE WORTH IT Micjelle F
Jul 25, 2010
 Health and Happyness
by: Anonymous

I hope you stay physically healthy and spiritualy healthy as well. At least for me i have found this to work in my favor not to mention that after all these years i still have to cope with what had happed to me as an innocent child of God.
Mar 24, 2011
 loving who i am
by: Anonymous

I have been getting counseling from my GOD above and my sister who has been thru the samr thing but for much longer,I have come to the conclusion that it was not my fault,I still need love and to give love,to not talk and to not think is the worst thing I can do think it thru and like Darlene says it happened can't change it,but I can change the way I react to it,I have stopped feeding it,Thank-You to:Darlene for this site and Maurice for follow me,you give such good advice too,I have also learned by reading other stories on this site my life was not the worst I pray for the others that had it worse and are still there or the one's I hear on the news that didn't make it out.
Aug 14, 2011
 Dont feel ashame
by: gisela

dont feel ashame because i understand u and kinda know whta you been through n im only 12 so im srry if im not making you feel good but ur a great mom!

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