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Feb 13, 2010
 Max:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It is unconscionable that your sister was forced to continue to live with her sex offender. The most trusted members of her family enabled the abuse, and that left her completely isolated, abandoned and betrayed. Your brother needed to be taken out of the game; removed from the home and placed somewhere that he could do no harm to others. I'm not at all surprised that your sister wouldn't want anything to do with her family. You said your mother tried to help her, but your mother had already proved that she had no intention of really helping when she forced her to live in the same house as her molester. So of course she wouldn't trust her; I wouldn't have either. Every adult who could do something to protect your sister failed her, so rather than face the possibility of more abandonment and betrayal from anyone in her family, she has chosen to completely distance herself. But this isn't on you, Max. You were no more able to protect your sister than she was able to protect herself. I suggest you seek out some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the guilt you now feel; guilt that is not yours to bear. Thank you for sharing yours and your sister's story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 15, 2010
 A brother's/sisters love, care, and protection.
by: maurice

You tried Max C. you need not blame yourself, your little sister deep within her know that too. you were helpless in the situation because everyone else was bigger and stronger than you. Your Father should have done alot more but evn he was helpless too. Your Mother deserves to be locked away with your older sister for allowing your brother free assess to your sister knowing what he did to her. Thank you for sharing with Darlene, her visitors and me the sordid details of what he really did. rapeing her is the worst to hear about. She must have been totally traumatised from it all both physically and menally especially knowing her mother and sister proteceted him and kept him in the house. Your mother needed to have him put away for therapy. Nothing like that happened so you must not be blaming yourself. Nothing was your fault, You did your best to protect your little sister. Darlene as always has opened her heart up to you in her comment. please read it ever so slowly and take on board what she is saying to you. Please love yourself enough to get counselling and help. You'll be fine. You are still thoughtful about the wellbeing of your sister who is now living her life as she wants to. She knows she is welcome to talk and stay with you in your house. Allow her to find her own level of loving herself, making it all a sense to her in her own right. It is her life that your older brother messed up and she has to cope with the effects of it by getting real help and counselling too. Max C if you truly look after your own health and happinesss then you will better be able to help others in need. Build up your own self worth. Live well, laugh alot, love much. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body. It was awful what happened within the four walls of your home/house. Your brother effected you all in different but real ways indirectly by what he did to your sister. Max C you get counselling to better understand those effects on you.
Feb 17, 2010
 just read
by: Anonymous

i can understand exactly what happened with your little sister because i was abused too and i have to currently live with that person. all i gotta say is that she had you and that is the best that anyone could give her. you know that you've been there for her and that you stood up for it so thats all that matters. all that i can say is just.. let it go... coz you cant change what happened as she herself can not. i can hope that she makes it through and im sure that you know that you've surely been a genuine person and you've got people to talk to. take care

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