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Jul 19, 2008
 Understandable hatred
by: Anonymous

I can understand why you hate him so much but don't let that hatred take over your whole life. You're so young to have lived through so much already. I hope you have someone you can talk to about all this.
Aug 03, 2008
 Be very careful with the path you've chosen- you could regret it later.
by: Andrew Richards

I feel the need to approach say things from two angles. I don't want to diminish what you went through by any means, but at the same time, I've been where you are now, and I know where it can tragically lead. I’m referring to where you say “I haven't seen him in almost 6 years. I hope I never do again!!!â€

I was emotionally abused in a very insidious way by my family (almost all my aunts and uncles with my father oblivious and my mother facilitating) for 23 years (I'm now 29) before things finished in the most insidious way possible. When I was about 19, it came out in a fight with my parents about my relatives that "I hate them, I hate them all!"

I loved them so much but at the same time I hated what they did to me and resented them for it so much. After my 24th birthday which was in itself hellish, uncles and aunts slowly came out of the woodwork, but one of the worst offenders never really apologised but mum had told me in discussing things with her that she agreed that it wasn't right how I'd been treated.

Anyway, a couple of years later, things still weren't resolved, and as the result of complications with a kidney failure related procedure, she died. The day before we died, we each said “love youâ€, but I never got an apology from her, I never felt like she was sorry, or she’d tried to make amends. I’m not sure what was harder- losing an aunt who had been a close family member (because mum and her were close), or the feeling of everything being up in the air, unfinished, with absolutely no closure!

What your Dad did I have no doubt has left scars that will take years to heal, and a mountain of burning hatred towards him and you have every right to feel that. But I also have no doubt that underneath him, you also love him as he’s your father- that’s the curse of parents and relatives abusing us- a father who a part of you will always want to love you like a father SHOULD love their daughters.

Maybe he’ll never see the abominable harm he did. But one day you might get a knock on the door from a father who sees all the hurt he’s done and who’d give anything to go back in time and change it- even his life. If that day comes, don’t slam the door in his face- not for him, but for you, because while it might cause you some satisfaction in the short term, you could very well wind up regretting it when he dies and the chance you had for him to help heal you was thrown away.
Jan 17, 2009
 Such animal cruelty...
by: Francine

Madison, I can relate to that animal cruelty thing that your so-called dad had openly displayed in front of you; when I was 7 years old, two of my brother's childhood friends gave me a pet pig for my 7th birthday and my grandpa used to be a farmer (just after purchasing some chickens -- including 2 stinking roosters -- for several years as pets), he helped me take care of that pig and I literally grew to care for that pig. One day when I was almost 8, my mother decided to borrow a shotgun from one of my dad's close friend...my dad's hunter friend...and she shot my pig on the head and freaking killed him because she knew that I liked him. Anyways, have you tried counselling? Madison, I am thinking of you!

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