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Oct 06, 2010
 Lucy:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You have NOTHING to be ashamed of. You did NOTHING wrong. You were a child being overpowered by an adult abuser and sex offender. Whether or not your mother knew, she knew he was abusing all of you; and as your mother, she owed it to all of her children to protect them. You were not in a position to be able to protect yourself from ANY of the abuse. As for blaming yourself for a rape because you were drinking, get rid of that thought once and for all! It is NEVER EVER the victim's fault. Period. End of story. Blame is ALWAYS on the shoulders of the offender because the offender chooses to offend. You were at much greater risk for sexual assault with the drinking, but that does not ever make it your fault. Please get into some form of counseling in order to help you deal with what you have lived through, and to help you with a safety plan in your life now. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Oct 07, 2010
 Don't quit: Don't give up on yourself: Be a winner
by: maurice

Lucy< please read Darlene's Comment a few times: You are a highly intelligent young woman: You are in pain from That beast's abuse of you: Darlene has sure put all he did to you in total honesty: It was not your fault: Lucy, please repeat her loving words fro her heart to you personally: It was not my fault: She has given you words of hope Lucy: You'll be the winner over that ( have many derogatory right full names for him) better not spoken or written but I know you understand: He was a bad man: ALMOST ruined your life, notice I said almost: I know you won't let him: You will, with the help of a counselor and Darlene encourages you to be in some form of counseling: Lucy, she knows the benefit of what she just wrote to you in her comment: She is a winner over her abuse: She has turned her pain into power for the good of you, me and all her many visitors to her site; She has built up a family of genuine loving caring people who can tell their story in a safe place knowing she will empathize with each one personally and then in turn she know each one will empathize with the other in a true way because they (we) all know the effects and pain of having been abused: Lucy: New Beginnings: Oh yes that must be your belief in yourself: Hi Lucy I know you are young enough and strong enough to change your life-styles: Beginning TODAY: NOW TIME of your life: Begin with counseling: Then get out there with your own age and gender having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Oh no, he's not asking me to take part in team sport and cultural activities with others: That I am Ms Lucy: You know the difference in a short time: Lucy let your motto be: I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: why??? Because I am WORTH it: Why Lucy?? Because I am WORTH it: Build up your SELF ESTEEM: Look in the MIRROR: No negative stuff about that beautiful me person looking out at you: Think positive: Act Positive: Be positive in all you do and say about yourself: Don't be saying I don't like this part or that part: Say I do like that part etc it is part of the whole me and I am beautiful: Be gentle and kind Lucy to your body especially the parts that ( You have an Idea of my names for hime)abused and molested: Be extra gentle on those parts erasing the ugliness feeling he made you have about yourself: Soother them with nice oils: Creams and massage them into your body: Why Lucy?? because I am WORTH it: Stay safe: Be safe that means love yourself: Be good to yourself: I sure empathize with each word you wrote about what that beast did to you: Read Darlene's comment: Get started having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Today: NOT tomorrow: Lucy: Always believe in yourself:
Oct 07, 2010
 thanks
by: lucy

Thank you for your comments I can,t get it in my head how you can't judge me. Even my mother thinks I,m stupid I have spoke to her not about the abuse or rape I can,t but about the way I feel she just said the way you feel will pass that I,m just feeling sorry for my self and that I should,nt go down the doctors they will think I,m mad. Maybe she right I don,t know. I feel like I've lost the will to care about life.
Oct 08, 2010
 You have a mind of your own: I have a mind of my own
by: maurice

I'm able to think for myself: I am able to do for myself: I am intelligent: I know I was abused: I know all the comments to me are re-assuring me of all of this: I am in charge of my own destiny in life: My mother seems to have the easy answers in your mind but you have to make the real answers for yourself: You don't go to the doctor's almost knowing he is going to tell you what your mother thinks about you: Lucy you have a mind of your own: Darlene gave you loving, encourageing real heartfelt words personally directed at you: You act positively on what she wrote: Take ownership of them to benefit you: Your healing begins from within yourself: It is your life you were talking about when you wrote your honest true story of what was done to you in abuse: You speak with a counsellor not because Darlene's said it is the right thing fpr you to do NOW: You see the benefit of making that decision for yourself: Motto I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT: You sure are: I sure am: Now no more negative thinking about yourself: With the help of a counsellor you will know what all the loving comments are saying from their hearts to you: We do and can empatise with you: look in that mirror and read my comment again to you as to what you should say to yourself:
Oct 09, 2010
 I,ll gonna try
by: lucy

I,m gonna try and ring up them in a little while and get appointment for monday but scared like hell.
Oct 09, 2010
 OMG x
by: Anjelica Douglas

Omg asif ur father dun this to u itss wrong but i see the way u handled it.I think its discusting reading stuff like this wen ur own parents abuse u.. SEXUALY abuse u its wrong. im sorry xxx
Oct 10, 2010
 stay strong
by: michelle5

you need to stay strong you need to do whats best to help you move on with your life you need to talk with a counseller. It will be hard and your want to quit but you must stick with it don,t give up on it. It will take a long time it won,t happen over night but you will see a light at the end of this. You won,t forget what has happened but you will be able to move forward from this and feel happy again. I am starting to look forward to life again now. I still get bad days but more good ones now take care.
Oct 11, 2010
 went to docs today
by: lucy

I went down the docs today and she has put me on antidepressants tablots and refering me to see a psychiastrist. Plus I got to go bk To docs on friday. I feel so supid and not sure what to expect I,m quite scared.
Oct 12, 2010
 Be Brave: Be strong. Be persevering
by: maurice

I will: I can: I must becaue I am WORTH it: Think positive Lucy: You'll be fine: great you are on the road of slef help as well as professional help and encouragement: You be strong for yourself: Hi say I love me from time to time: It is great you are in good professional care Lucy: We all had to struggle at the start but we Did not Quit and we are all the better for it in our lives today: Lucy, Darlene and her many visitors want waht is the best for you: I WANT WHAT IS THE BEST FOR ME; Good on you LUCY
Oct 12, 2010
 Me too
by: Anonymous

This is very much like what happened to me except my father did not call me ugly he was just very aggressive. Someone raped me as well but i was seventeen and still am seventeen, i know who the person is and i see them around constantly. I was drunk as well to the point that i couldnt really move but was awake.
Oct 13, 2010
 I know how that feels
by: lucy

Yes he still frightens me now I can,t go out with out him being there and I,ve just had to block his moblie number because he keeps txting and phoneing and he sends things through the post I can,t get away from it.
Oct 13, 2010
 thank you
by: lucy

Just wanted to say thankyou you all are very surportive.
Nov 12, 2010
 up date
by: lucy

Have,nt been on here for a while cause I,ve not long been out of hospital I did something really stupid about 2 1/2 weeks ago i tryed to take an over dose I felt it was the only way out, now I just feel stupid and can,t face anyone. On the up side at least now I,m getting the help I know deep down I need, and my mum is trying to be really surportive, but now I have a horrable long road ahead of me but hopefully I can be strong enough to get there and maybe someday I,ll learn to like who I am and not be ashamed to be me.

From Darlene - Webmaster: Lucy, first of all, I'm delighted that your attempt was unsuccessful; I'm SO happy that you're still with us. Secondly, please don't beat yourself up about your attempt. And thirdly, what you did was NOT an act of stupidity; it was an act of desperation. The help you need is now available to you. Be honest within that help, as difficult as it will be. It is through the process that healing can begin for you. I send you nothing but positive energy.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Nov 15, 2010
 thank you
by: lucy

Thank you Darlene for your kind comment and thank you for seting up this site it helps to know your not alone and others understand how your feeling. This site has more than likely helped hundreds of people you are one brave and strong person to be able to carry on helping others even after you too lived through horrable abuse.thank you. Maybe one day I will be able to be strong.
Nov 18, 2010
 I can: and I will
by: maurice

Lucy, there's greatness in you: You'll be the winner: You sure will turn your pain into power just as you acknowledged what Darlene did: Yes she is a great woman for having the vision to set up her site for us all to share ever so honestly our own abuse story: She sure in an inspiration to us all we all have said that to her from our hearts: In the saying of it we must be true to ourselves and really try harder to be like her in turning our pain into power firstly for our own good and then hopefully for the good of others: Lucy: Your the best: Be brave: Be strong: don't blame yourself for your latest set back: Darlene put that in perspective for you: Your read her comment and you sure are intelligent enough to know I can and I will do as she suggested in her firm but loving words to me: Let your recent set back make you more strong willed to makes things good again for you: Hi Lucy: I can: I will: I must because I AM WORTH IT: Lucy love pores out of my heart to you: You'll be the winner: Empower yourself first then many will be helped by you:
Jan 16, 2011
 I hate feeling this way
by: Lucy

I got another counselling session tomorrow and not looking forward to it. My counselor thinks I should talk to my mum and my older sister also I can,t tell her what happened with her husband if I thought his was hurting my niece then I would but as much as I hate him for what his put me through I don,t think he would ever hurt her I hate feeling like this I don,t want to hurt anyone and don,t know what to do.
Jan 20, 2011
 Continue to be strong: Be brave: Always believe in yourself
by: maurice

Lucy: my heart goes out to you as I can empathize with you in your feelings right now: Counseling ain't an easy journey but it is your saving help into being your own wonderful self in time: Stay with it Lucy: Your counselor I am certain will understand if you say you are not ready to do what she asks of you: Open your paining hearts Lucy to your counselor: Have you the friend I would like you to have your own age and sex who will hug and cuddle you when you need same: Please be gentle and kind on yourself Lucy: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: get out there walking with friends, taking part in sports but open out your mind and your horizons: Dream your dream and make the difference in your life with a little or a lot of help from your friends: Happy new Year: happy new beginnings in your efforts to heal and to love yourself
Apr 30, 2011
 Your bravery
by: David

First of all you have started in the right way by talking about it, secondly your not worthless, ugly or stupid, thirdly you have everything to look forward to, start a new life be the real you, not everyone is like the guys who abused you and they are the ones that have done wrong not you. You come across as an intelligent and decent human being, be strong minded in a positive way, do the right thing and make a good life for yourself dont let them win and your the winner by getting on with your life and showing the world you can be happy and settled and that you do have a positive outlook and you have something special to give to the world and thats you the person. Your brave and positive already by talking about it but thats behind you now, put it away be the person you want to the kind loving and clever woman you really are, your the most important person and deserve a good life from now on so grasp life and happiness put the evil and bad people away from you and show everyone who you can be. Hope this helps. Get on with your life your worth living and the people who have hurt you dont even merit being thought of by you. take care. David.
May 09, 2011
 thank you
by: Lucy

Thank you for your kind comment I,m doing much better thank you some days still feel hard but I,m getting there I,m still in counselling and don,t feel ready to stop going but I,m taking one day at a time and hopefully I,ll get there in the end thank you again
May 10, 2011
 You are so Brave: I really belive this is for good in your life
by: maurice

Oh Lucy: Great you have the courage and the undestanding to know by staying in counselling you will turn your pain of abuse int empowering your beautiful and wonderful self and then many others: Thank you, you brief but heart sharing thanks says alot about you: Also about darlene's site: You have her love, her support, her encouragement as you have all the same caring empatising hearts to say, take one day at a time, live well: Laugh alot: LOVE much: You truly are very brave and special person of the female species: My prayers are with you

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