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Mar 17, 2012
 Lucia:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You're a very caring and compassionate friend. Your friend is blessed to have you in her life. I will say a couple of things: First, parents have the right to set rules, including setting reasonable conditions for activities to be permitted, like cleaning up one's room in order to have the privilege of going out with friends or go and so something special. What parents don't have the right to do is abuse or in any way harm a child/adolescent. The fact that your friend's mother drinks to excess could well be putting your friend at greater risk for abuse. Being there in a supportive role is important, Lucia, but there is only so much you can do. In Canada, (I know you're in the USA) everyone has a legal obligation to report known or suspected child abuse. I strongly recommend you contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about your friend. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

And don't view reporting what's happening to your friend as a betrayal, even if you've promised to keep whatever she's disclosed to you personally a secret. There can be no secrets when it comes to child abuse, Lucia. What's the most important thing is that your friend be and stay safe. You would not be betraying her trust if you report what you know and suspect. You'd actually be helping her. And helping your friend could ultimately lead her mother to getting the she needs as well. And don't forget to take care of your Self. It can be very distressing to go through all of this. Make sure you have your own support system in place too. I send you all love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your friend's story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Mar 18, 2012
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by: Rita M

Dear Lucia,
I can't thankyou enough for saying something.You are a genuine friend.If you could call Family Services it would be great.You have basically said you would be there for her.There would be some tension from saying something but your friend will appreciate it the long run.A good
friend will stick by no matter what.Living with an alcoholic is very difficult and it could put your friend at risk because of her mothers behavior and your friend could also starting to hurt herself.I understan that rules in the household ar important,but wh en you are abused the desire of doing house work goes down.She obviously needs to coucelled.Tell your friend that
you care and will stand by her no matter what and that she has your support.God Bless
Rita M

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