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Jan 22, 2013
 Lorelei:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The way to help your daughter is to be a constant source of love and support for her. BE the parent you were denied when you went to your parents, but take the lead from your daughter. Start by telling her you believe her and that you didn't know. Don't blame her. Don't ask why she didn't tell you. Just understand that she didn't feel safe enough to tell, but now she does, and for that she deserves a great deal of credit. Tell her you'll be there for her in any way she needs you. And most of all, love her with all you heart. And love your Self too, Lorelei. Given the triggers this may bring you, it might be a good idea to seek out some form of therapy or counselling for your Self. I send both you and your daughter love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing yours and your daughter's story with my visitors and me.

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Jan 25, 2013
 Lorelei,
by: AnonymousT

Just listen to her. If you see each other regularly, keep seeing her regularly. If you don't, ask her out for lunch or something occasionally so she can be in touch with you as she is trying to heal. Or even regular emails if you're far apart.

Ask her what she needs. Let her set her boundaries, but at the same time let her know you're available. That's all.

Also, I feel it's important to make a point to explain that if we're sexually abused, our boundaries were skewed in childhood...so it makes sense you wouldn't see the signs. Try your best not to worry about the past, and do what you can NOW to be the person she needs.

The fact that you're on the web looking for answers says so much about you. You're a good mom.


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