Comments for Child Abuse Story From Lonely at Heart Part 5

Apr 20, 2009

So much pain and betrayal...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You and your family WILL emerge from this stronger and with a closer bond, Sandra. And your sister DOES understand your pain; she left you a heartfelt message that showed this.

As for your aunt, she must live with her choices, twisted as they are. You on the other hand, have made the choice to no longer keep quiet. THAT is what your aunt cannot face, because she KNOWS that you are not lying. She KNOWS how strong you really are; and that threatens all that she has. She has built her life on a stack of cards that are falling down around her. As her desperation grows, she lashes out at the person she once successfully controlled. As long as you concern yourself about what a woman not worth thinking about IS thinking, then you will stay trapped and she will continue to control you and have power over you. You can choose to take back your power, Sandra. You can't change others no matter how hard you try. You can only change how you yourself respond to any given situation. The fact that you are turning to your family for support and validation is a very positive thing. The fact that you keep writing is also extremely positive, and can help you along your road toward healing and recovery.

A long time ago I wrote a letter to my father much like what you wrote above. I was so filled with rage and outrage while I wrote, that I scribbled hard enough on the pad to cut the paper clear through. I cried and cried, and then I read and re-read that letter. After the tears finally subsided, I ceremoniously burned that letter. Yes, it was symbolic, but it was one of the most cleansing and cathartic things I've ever done. It allowed me to let go of all the hate and anger and hostility. I took back my power on that day. You have the ability to take back YOUR power, Sandra.

I am honoured that you feel safe enough to keep writing your story on my site...thank you again for sharing even more of it with my visitors and me. You express so well what so many survivors have been unable to express. You are much stronger than you give yourself credit for.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 20, 2009

You keep loving yourself Lonely at heart
by: maurice

Always believe in yourself Sandra. You'll be the winner long term for your own sake and your family will be united around you for you being brave and strong in your right. I love me is your motto. Make a beautiful sense of that for yourself. Then You will better be able to think positive thoughts, Act positive in your day to day living life to the full and be positive in dealing with all you have to. Darlene know best and she is ever so pleased that you keep sharing with her and her many caring visitors for each other and you. Good on you. Don't you Quit Now. The pain of your abuse hopefully is lessening with each visit to Darlene's sight. Do keep trying to let go of those awful years of your innocent life Sandra. Be true to yourself, Be true to your family Be true to God. Say I'm Special and I am a winner.

Apr 21, 2009

Information
by: Sandra

Dar,

Thank you for your response and for your supportive words!! It means A LOT!!
I have been searching for counseling or for a place to go to and just stay while I start my on my path to recovery...I havent been successful!

I dont want to just sit in a room and talk to someone, I have tried that before and havent gotten anywhere. I feel like I need liberation...lol! Do not know if you know what I mean...but IF you have ANY information for where I live, I would really appreciate it!!

Thank you again...and a million times more!!

God bless you!
Sandra

Apr 22, 2009

Sandra:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Sandra, your posts help other visitors to this site, so I thank YOU too.

I think I do understand what you are saying. I wish I could offer you a list of places to go where you live.

I don't know what financial resources you have available to you...but have you ever considered a wellness center? A place where there is a balance of body, mind and spirit? A retreat of sorts? A place where you can connect with the person you really are? If this interests you, try doing some online searches with keywords such as "wellness centers in Tampa, Florida" or "spiritual centers", etc.

And when I speak of "spirituality", I'm not referring to religion; rather, I'm speaking of an inner connectedness.

You gravitate so naturally toward writing, Sandra. I find that people who write a lot often read a lot. I am a big fan of people (I call them healers) like Elizabeth Lesser (of the Omega Institute) and Eckhart Tolle (A New Earth and The Power of Now), among others. They have written some amazing books where the focus is on spiritual growth and connectedness. I highly recommend their works.

I do hope you find what you are seeking, Sandra.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 22, 2009

Great minds think alike!!
by: Sandra

I am amused and laughing for the first time today and I thank you!! As I sit here at work and basically do my job & search the net. I have been looking at centers, just last night I told my boyfriend and my sister that I would like to try a treatment center first, just get lost for a few days while receiving treatment and see where that will take me.

I hope and pray that I can get there...cause I know that there are so many things that I need to get off my chest...things that I may never be able to write on your site...we will see....but thank you for your input and encouraging words!!

Sandra

From Darlene: Yes, indeed. Great minds do think alike! So glad I could make your day.

I too hope you can find a way to get to such a retreat. They truly are wonderful holidays for every aspect of your being.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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