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Feb 09, 2010
 Liz:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. And I must say, you learned plenty. You learned to be fearful; to be angry; to lie or withhold the truth because telling the truth resulted or results in consequences that were/are inappropriate; that size is might; that you had/have no say in any part of your life; that your body is not really yours because your mother can strike it at any time. The message that has stuck with you the longest and the worst is that you aren't good enough. These are all lessons your mother had taught you. But you ARE good enough, Liz. It's your mother who is trying to prove that SHE'S good enough, difficult as that is to understand right now. This is about her not you. You see, your mother has serious problems. She is desperate to keep control and power over you because she herself doesn't have it, likely because of her own childhood. That's not an excuse, it's a possible explanation. Contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about what you are still dealing with at home. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. You can visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

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Feb 10, 2010
 Great you were brave enough to tell your story.
by: maurice

Hi, Liz 1 you need alot of loving from your friends to help you to know and love yourself. Your mother sure does not love you in the way a MOTHER should. Darlene, well Liz 1 you read her comment to you, don't just read it, act on the loving advice she has given to you. she too was alittle girl like you who was abused. she knows now what is the best plan of action for other children who have been or are being abused today. She is living her life to the full knowing the way she coped with the awful abuse of her parents helped her to be a winner over abuse. From victim to victory over it. She is proving too that there is life after abuse. Liz 1 she respects you and all her visitors by treating each one's story with reverence in the telling. While there maybe similiarities in some stories she makes her comment to you, to everyone individually. Her heart goes out to each one equally. I know, her visitors know from her personal comment from her loving heart to each one. In her busy schedule of daily life she still affords time to her site because she know the power of it for you and me. So Liz 1 off your bottom, act on her advice, don't be afraid you have supporting friends around you, maybe your mother and your extended family of Aunts in particual and uncles. Maybe a Grandmother too. they sure are wisdomed enough to listen and know. Liz take part in sports and cultural activities with your fellow class/school/college mates as you live each day to the full. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body. There's safety in numbers and one grows naturally being part with others in healthy pursuits. You are gifted, your are intelligent, value your schooling and your education. Remmeber now (TODAY) of your bottom and take Darlene's advice to your heart. She knows what is the best plan of action for you right now.
Feb 11, 2010
 Respect...yes; abuse...oh no no no
by: Anonymous

Liz, threatening you for "asking her not to help you with the Spanish project" really shows me what a bully she really is. I can slightly relate to that Spanish thing of yours (sad to say). She really seems to be acting like an overgrown teenager who really happens to be a mother after birthing such a beautiful child like you. The sooner you tell someone, the better. Darlene and Maurice are right! Liz, please tell someone and especially those you really trust.
Feb 22, 2010
 Be not afraid
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry!

But I would love to share some hope and encouragement with you. I read that you don't know if you're good enough. Let me tell you what I've seen in you from reading your story:

-You are strong. You have gotten through thus far and continue to live your life. You didnt give up and that is something to be proud of.
-You are brave. Remember that courage/bravery is not the absence of fear, but the awareness of fear and facing situations anyway.
-You are wonderful. Every person is wonderful and uniquely made in the Lord's image. It's the way He made us, therefore, you are beautiful!
-You are loved. Maybe you are not loved by your mother, but you are loved by God and you are loved by me through God.
-You are supported by others on this site.
-You are not alone. God is with you every step of the way. Many people experience abuse and you dont need to feel like an outcast.
-You are needed/wanted. God placed you here on this earth for a reason. Not to be abused, but to be loved by Him and others and to share His love with people.
-You are smart. To deal with abuse, you had to have been strategic. That takes smarts!


Those are only a few wonderful, great things about you. And I hope as time goes by, or right now reading this you encounter God, He will work wonders for you, and that in life you realize all the many other wonderful, fantastic things about yourself.

GOD BLESS YOU!
you're in my prayers!

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