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Apr 19, 2011
 Linda:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm delighted that you're in a safe place now. Very disturbing what your father did and didn't do. You've earned the anger and hostility you feel toward him. Allow yourself to feel the emotions attached to that, really feel them, so that they will eventually let go of you.

As I read your story, I didn't buy into the fact that your father didn't know just because he wasn't home. There would have been signs when the abuse was subtle, but there would have been clear evidence as the abuse escalated. He chose his personal needs over that of his precious daughter: You. But that's not your fault. That's on him. And the abuse is on your stepmother, with your father being an enabler. The school enabled it as well when they did not step up when you were obviously injured. Processing all of this is challenging. Counselling can help you with that, but only if you're open to the full process. Always remember that you were not the one to blame. You were, and are, worthy of dignity and respect and love. That love is now shining through with your grandfather. Lean on that love and support, Linda, and see your Self as the wonderful spiritual being that you are. I sure do. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Apr 20, 2011
 The Horror
by: Anonymous

Linda, I can't believe that your dad would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick monster of a stepmother and even allow her to beat and berate you everyday...how dare he! Shame on him for running away from you all the time instead of protecting you from that beast of a stepmother! That's not even baby-sitting; that's just torture and I'm pretty sure that there's a lot of (actual) baby-sitters who would love to look after you at times. If she didn't want to be there, then she should've had the courage to leave instead of sadistically abusing you. The path that she and your dad chose is inexcusable. Oh, and she is wrong. You are not a useless "b**** (please excuse my French!)"; you are beautiful and wonderful. You are not worthless; you are worthy of love, dignity and respect, all of which you were sadistically denied of. Your "stepmother" is a truly sadistic, ignorant beast and she should've known better and loved and cherished you. Oh, and even stepmothers who abuse their own stepdaughters are one of the real abusers...the little beasts. Oh, and you are not to blame for her sadistic, ignorant behavior; she is to blame because she chose to abuse you. You were the child; she was the adult; she had all the power and she misused it over you. Oh, and I'm glad your grandpa is with you now because he is so sweet for doing that; I just hope that your so-called stepmother will get incarcerated for all those terrible crimes that she committed against you.
Apr 20, 2011
 I am healing: I am in a loving safe place: Always believe in yourself
by: maurice

Linda: the more I read Darlene's individual comments to her visitors the more I am convinced her words will empower that person to ACT: She has spoken from her woman's heart to you: I lke putting it that way because she is totally heart when she writes her comment to any of her visitors: As she tells us from time to time all a visitors gets from her site is helpful, encouraging, resepctful words of empathy and the reader has to ACT on them to move on and be healed of the effects of abuse on them: We are one big Happy family here on Darlene's site: We have all one thing in common we were abused as indeed Darlene herself was: Most if not all who visit here have turned their pain into empowering themselves or others: Because That is what Darlene intended when she set up this site: She is a caring loving, valueing, respecting, professional as well as HEART in her stewarding of it: She truly is worth taking heed of in what she has written to you LINDA: words for you to take into your heart, head and work on them to let go of your past memories and the effects of abuse: Linda, let you motto be from this DAY I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: because I am WORTH it: You are highly intelligent in your own right: stay in education: be safe, stay safe, you have a loving Grand-Father a safe loving environment for you to move on in your life: One sure natural way to begin is to have a healthy mind in a healthy body: So get out and about being Active and Alive taking part with your own age and gender friends/fellow students in team sports, sporting and cultural activities: You'll know the difference in a short time: the abuse was not your doing: Not your Fault: You know that now Linda: So stop blaming yourself: Start believeing in yourself: My motto, I Will, etc Linda. Be gentle and kind to yourself and your body (BEAUTIFUL)I am beautiful: I am special: I love me: so hugs and cuddles to that beautiful me looking out at you from the mirror: Era go ther's no one looking it is your sacred space:
Apr 24, 2011
 :( horrific
by: Tanya

Linda,

What a horrific story and it's extremely sad that Families SA allowed your abuse to continue.

Im in Sth Australia too and many years ago reported a bad child abuse case to them involving a 3 year child who was being abused to the point where he had marks from being strangled about his throat and horrid marks on his thigh from a beating with a hair brush (I even took photos as evidence). I was concerned that this child would be killed by his step father. Families SA didnt even follow up!!! and this child is now grown up (18 years old) and a criminal robbing houses, I think due to the lack of love he had.

It still haunts me and I will always regret I didnt pressure Families SA more to investigate and help him. (I was told by them that were too busy to deal with all the reported cases they get and gave up after ringing them about him just the once).

Best luck with your life.
(a fellow Sth Australian)

From Darlene - Webmaster: Tanya, while I appreciate that you are coming from a place of caring, I've removed both your full name and phone number from your comment. I do not permit personal information like this on my site because I want to keep all who visit here as safe as possible. I thank you for your understanding.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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