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Jan 17, 2011
 Lauren:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

When you were being sexually abused, you were also being physically and emotionally abused. And though it's healthy that you've found someone trustworthy to talk to, there are limits to what this person can offer. I hope you'll consider some form of counseling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of being violated by so many men, and for the betrayal and abandonment you've experienced throughout your life. What you've shared is vile enough; I can only begin to imagine what you cannot share. But sharing and exposing the emotions attached to those memories is critical to the healing process; otherwise, those 8 long dark years of your life could stretch out a lifetime. You deserve to be in a healing place, Lauren. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jan 20, 2011
 Please, oh Please go for counselling: It will benefit you:
by: maurice

My heart goes ot to you Lauren J: Having spent 8 years of my life living in Belfast I never came across such a horrific abuse story as you have related here on Darlene's safe haven site: Great you searched for and found it: She knows best: She allowed your truthful telling of this horrific abuse you were put through at the hands of animals/beasts: Not human beings and not real men: They sure took advantage of you, your beautiful innocence, vulnerability. PLEASE read over and over again DARLENES comment: understand fully her woman's heart advising you: Counseling is a must Lauren: I hope and pray you have found a good and genuine true friend ( a male) you have trusted and can trust: With him search for counselors and they are there in Belfast: Be safe, stay safe, talking and telling your story to a counselor will put the pain, the humiliation, the hurt, ALL ABUSE you were forced to endure into perspective: Your beautiful tender body was sexually and physically brutalized: You need help to make a sense of it all: Please take back your power: do what you know best for you now: You seem to be young enough to take part in the sports and games you wanted to as a teenager but this group of scumbags did'nt allow you: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: Be gentle and kind to your body NOW; make it your beautiful body once more and love it, like it, admire it ad acknowledge you were not a fault or to blame what those animals put you trough: It always amazes me why People don't observe these things when a child/teenager is at school or by Aunts/Uncles or good neighbours: Even your class mates and report it to someone who could have done something for you: Lauren J: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: I will: I can: I must: because I am WORTH it: lauren J take charge of your own destiny in life: Live it to the full: Surround yourself with good and true friends: Be safe:
Jan 23, 2011
 counseling/therapy
by: Lori M

Although I do agree that therapy/counseling is a good idea, you should research who you see if you decide to do this. I have known people who have gone for help and were only damaged more. You need someone highly educated in the topic of child sexual abuse. LIkely a man would not be a good choice either. Screen them, check their credentials. This goes for anyone who seeks help for this. I went to counseling in my past with an abusive partner and found myself in the office with another abuser. So I'm just saying for anyone make sure you know about them, and you do have the right to walk out if you feel they are not qualified and not helpful.
Apr 17, 2011
 please be careful
by: Anonymous

I don't know if this comment is relevant or not ... but I want to urge you to tell a professional counselor about the abuse, and not just this trusted male friend.

I am not an abuse victim ... but I am educated on sex trafficking. Reading your story sent up red flags. Especially your comment that without this friend, you would be nothing.

I am not trying to instill distrust in this friend. But I just want to see you protected from any further exploitation.

Please find a trusted, professional source of help.

Praying and hoping for your healing ...

Rachel

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